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  • Member since
    July, 2004
  • From: Sunny So. Cal... The OC
Posted by stikpusher on Wednesday, August 09, 2017 11:13 PM

I am sorry for your loss. I know where you're coming from. I lost my mother a bit over 6 years ago now, and my father at the beginning of this year. It will hurt for awhile. That is the nature of grief, at least as I know it. Certain things related to this hobby that are directly related to my parents are more precious to me now than before their passings. But I think it does help to share our losses and victories with our online group of friends here.

 

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  • Member since
    November, 2003
  • From: Newington CT
Posted by tempestjohnny on Thursday, August 10, 2017 7:16 AM
So sorry for your loss. Being in the,same age group as you I fully understand your feelings for your mom. Your mom was a very strong lady by the sounds of it. It is ok to grieve, but don't let it consume you she wouldn't want it that way. I lost mine when I was 31. And my dad 2 years ago. John

 

  • Member since
    June, 2014
  • From: New Braunfels , Texas
Posted by Tanker - Builder on Thursday, August 10, 2017 11:45 AM

Hey Armornut !

 I worry that the women who really loved us , Moms , Grams and all will be waiting tapping their foot . " Did you remember to have on clean underwear ? " Mom type stuff . May they always head up our best memories of the past . T.B.

  • Member since
    March, 2009
  • From: Yorkville, IL
Posted by wolfhammer1 on Thursday, August 10, 2017 8:43 PM

My sincerest condolances on your loss. My mom passed away at 72 just a few years ago.  Its never easy, and shared pain is lighter pain.  We are here for you as fellow modelers, friends and fellow humans.  It takes a stronger person to ask for help than to hold it all inside.  May God grant your mom swift entry to heaven, and may He grant you and your family His comfort and peace.  

John

  • Member since
    March, 2007
  • From: Northeast WA State
Posted by armornut on Thursday, August 10, 2017 8:55 PM

Thank you wolfhammer1, and EVERYONE else, this is the best therapy next to the VA i have had. I go back to work Monday, thanks to y'all here my boss and co-workers will see the same 'le Perry thet had before, a real hardass on inspection but a respectful and fum loving co-worker. Now to the bench with y'all! Ther must be a contest, show, or shelf of doom that needs to be filled. As soon as I dump Photobucket, my posts should include pix Thank you all..

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  • Member since
    September, 2009
Posted by Cobra 427 on Friday, August 11, 2017 11:46 PM

No, Sir - no one here thinks that you're a dweeb for posting your thoughts and feelings. That IS what this forum is for - to express other things that are not about modeling. Last year I lost my last living grandmother and grandparent. I also lost my Weepy Baby kitten that died one day shy of being four months old. I was practically bashed for it by the staff, and admonished by a couple other members because they thought that I was posting too much about it, and that I should get professional help. I was in BAD SHAPE! I almost died as I let this go and go for so long, but I NEEDED to grieve as this was the only way to get over her death as much as I could. I needed someone that understood me without judgement - not a headshrinker! I left the forums for a while so that I could grieve without making everyone else miserable. However, as I recovered it was a long journey doing so as I ADORED, and WORSHIPPED that tiny kitten as she didn't really grow since she had health problems that none of us knew about at the time. She was my baby, and I've had all kinds of pets, but she was special! The vet thought she wouldn't live, but she did for a couple more months since that time. Unfortunately she died any way. This was from neurological problems that weren't too evident just looking at her.

I have NEVER felt that kind of grief even after my other grandma died, my cousin on my fathers' side died at 43 (same age I am now) in 2011, and then my aunt on my moms' side died in 2014. Then my cousin (her son)  died in 2015, and shortly afterwards, my moms' Yorkie (JoJo) died about a month in between. Now it's 2016 - almost a year later, and my moms' mother dies, then Weepy, then my uncle in October of last year, then my best friends' cousin that I grew up with commited suicide almost a week after that!! I call 2016 the year of death.  I can't tell you what you're feeling, or the loss as my mother is still living, but barely hanging on as her health deteriorates more and more all the time.

They say that time heals all wounds - that's not true! I still hurt when I think about poor Weepy Baby, and JoJo (I found him dead) as well as others that have gone before me. I wasn't so hurt when my grandma died as I knew that we were standing next to her when she went, and that she is in Heaven now.  Without being preachy I don't know what your faith is, but know that God has a reason for every one dying the way that they do when it's their time. I only hope that you can find solace somewhere, somehow! I found mine in the Holy Bible. Time doesn't heal wounds - this is something that only LOVE can do! Enjoy your memories, and hold on to them dearly!  We're here to help whenever you need us. Don't be afraid to reach out for someone to listen. 

 

~ Cobra Chris 

Maybe a picture of a squirrel playing a harmonica will make you feel better?

 

 

  • Member since
    March, 2005
  • From: Lancaster, South Carolina
Posted by Devil Dawg on Saturday, August 12, 2017 3:39 PM

Sorry to hear about this, Armornut. I lost my mom to COPD & pancreatic cancer back in Oct 2010, six months after my dad had died. Death is not an easy thing to handle for the ones that survive. Glad that you let us all know about this because, even though this is a modeler's forum, it's also a place where you can ask for advice and help with other areas of your life, too. Prayers are going out to you and you family. God Bless you, Armornut.

Gary Mason

 

Devil Dawg

On The Bench: Travel 1/48th Hasegawa A-7 Corsair II;  Travel 1/48th Hasegawa F/A-18F Super Hornet;  Travel 1/48th Eduard/Hasegawa Ultimate Sabre with "MiG Mad Marine" markings;

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  • Member since
    March, 2007
  • From: Northeast WA State
Posted by armornut on Sunday, August 13, 2017 1:18 AM

Thank you for your post DD, haven't seen ya around for awhile. Hope things are goid in your neck of the woods. Y'all who read this thread whether you choose to post or not are some of the finest, most considerate, nicest, and knowledgable people I have had the privledge to assosiate with. Sincerly, I wouldn't have votten back in the game so quick without ALL of you. Thank you.

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  • Member since
    February, 2012
  • From: Parma, Ohio
Posted by lawdog114 on Friday, August 18, 2017 10:56 PM

I'm terribly sorry for your loss 'nut. My father died unexpectedly back in 2013 and it was like being punched in the gut. I'm still struggling with it. I guess they call it survivor's guilt. Everytime I hear the '80's song "The Living Years" I cry like a little girl. I guess I'm trying to say is that your not alone. Hang in there my friend...we're here for you.

 "Can you fly this plane and land it?...Surely you can't be serious....I am serious, and don't call me Shirley"

 

 

 

 

  • Member since
    March, 2007
  • From: Northeast WA State
Posted by armornut on Saturday, August 19, 2017 5:39 PM

I remember you now Cobra Chris, yes there were folks who kinda beat you up, I didn't have any real helpful advise for you so I don't think I replied. I was concerned for you as well and I hope that you are doing better. Nothing feels worse than the death of a loved one, human or otherwise, I have experience in both before my mom passed but you are right. Taking the time to share my pain with the folks I communicate with here REALLY helped. I would like to think I leave a positive impact on threads I reply to, there was one resently I will not mention names, but I still harbor no ill will towards that person. I am glad now that I posted, very greatful for the support and value everyone here. The modelimg community is kinda "quirky" but we are ALL human. I'm still suprised folks are still checking in and leaving replies. It means alot. Thank you.

I don't want to leave ya out Lawdog, your reply is very much appreciated.

we're modelers it's what we do

  • Member since
    January, 2014
  • From: Nampa, Idaho
Posted by jelliott523 on Sunday, August 20, 2017 11:29 AM

So sorry to hear of your loss! Thoughts are with you and your family during this difficult time.

On the Bench:  Lots of unfinished projects!  Smile

  • Member since
    March, 2007
  • From: Northeast WA State
Posted by armornut on Sunday, August 20, 2017 2:29 PM

Thank you J, a friend and I are going to the Warbirds Museum next weekend for the airshow. I'll honk on my way by LOL.

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