I'm no expert, but for some reason I've had some pretty good results with engines...and it's sort of the reverse of what you did. This is better for older motors, but may work in your case. Washes have been problematic for me as well, and it's tough to get the final look right.
Basically, I airbrush the whole motor assembly in flat black, then apply a *heavy* drybrushing of Tamiya metallic gray. Silver or aluminum would probably work as well, but the end result is that the flat black stays in the recesses and the sheen duplicates the worked-in oil/grease look.
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