Bobby

I'm so sorry for your loss. My heart, thoughts and prayers go out for you and your kids. 

Where in Florida are you located? There is a big regional show coming up later this month near my house in Orlando. May be a good thing for you to attend and maybe grab some lunch. 

I don't see a problem shipping your paints and supplies as they can be shipped by ground only. Ideally would be having a friend or family member bring the supplies down for you. We moved out of state a couple of times and I transported all my models, supplies and other things like guns and valuables.

Welcome back and give me a holler if you need anything.

Ernie

Hey PJ,  Thank you sir!  Greatly appreciated!

LOL!  My sister has been pushing me to go to Modelpalooza!  She even mentioned about hooking up with someone from the forums!  Too funny.  I'll PM you soon!

Bobby

Bobby I can truely sympathize with what you are going through.  Went through a difficult divorce and then met a truely wonderful lady and remarried.  After a stroke and cancer lost her 2 weeks after our second anniv.  It is tough what you are going through I know.

I can say it gets better and easier, it has been 13 years now since she passed and I still think about her all the time.  The pain is gone but all the wonderful parts are still with me.   Love your kids!  They are hurting too and they really need to know their dad is still there for them.  Allow them to see that you are hurting too and share that with them.  You will all be better for it.

My daughter was 4 when her mom ditched me and she saw me go through a lot of hurt from it.  We were always close, but that brought us closer I think than most fathers and daughters.  While she had to grow up a little she still had a childhood and she is a much better person today than she might have been.

I know you are hurting my friend, I promise it gets better.  You will look back at this time and your memories will seem like you were in a fog.  Five minutes at a time, then an hour, then a day, and days things will be better.

As for shipping your stuff south, it will have to go ground.  That is also usually the cheapest.

Thank you  Heavens Eagle!  Very wise words there.  And all true.  The fog, the pain, the kids.  All very true.  I have 2 awesome kids and they are doing well considering.  And you are right about the relationship.  My daughter and I have gotten closer and it's great to have her open up and let me know how see feels.  My son just turned 4.  At that age, he doesn't really have a grid for death, but he knows what has happened.  It is good to know that the pain won't last forever too.  Never felt pain like this and wouldn't wise it on anyone!

Thank you sir!

Ground shipping.  Good idea.  I'll wrap everything the best I can in case of leaks or breakage.

Thanks again!

Bobby

Thank you checkmate!  Much appreciated.  Tough times, but I have great support from the family....and FSM friends!  Thank you again!

Bobby

Bobby, you are in my thoughts and prayers.

I have something I'd like to share with you. I was going through a personal trauma some years back. After what seemed to be too much time, I desperately asked a friend when I would start to feel better.

He said "Have you ever gotten up before dark for a road trip, taken off with a mug of coffee in the dark, than at some point you notice the sun is shining and it is a beautiful day? And you don't even remember the sun coming up?"

"Yes, that's happened to me", I said.

"Well that is how it will work. One day you are going to notice things are going pretty well, and you don't even remember it happening."

And that's the way it worked. Things will get better, a day at a time.

Greg, what a great analogy! I can't wait for that coffee and that day!  It will come.

Thank you sir for the thoughts and prayers.  Much appreciated!

Bobby

Bobby- I'm so very sorry to hear this news, and my thoughts and prayers are with you. I've been very sporadic here over the last 13 months due to my wife and me helping my parents transition from their home of 32 years into assisted living (there's much more to it but nothing compared to what you're going through). Obviously I've missed your other posts.

I know I'd be lost without my wife and am very thankful for her. Your advice to show appreciation to our spouses is well taken. I wish my very best to you and your kids on your journey to brighter days.

Dave 

Hey Dave.  Thank you sir!  And my thoughts and prayers for you, your wife, and your parents.  So many life changing events, all very difficult in their own ways. 

You aren't kidding when you say you'd be lost without your wife!  I didn't realize until it was too late.  We had an awesome relationship, and I would have concidered myself strong enough to handle this, but man, it's kicking my back side!  But I have 2 awesome kids and their momma taught them well!  So, we will adapt and overcome.....at some point! 

Thank you again for your thoughts and prayers!  Much appreciated!

Bobby

I don't really know what to say, I think the guys already said it far better than I could. But I will say good luck, God bless, and it's good to have you back!

Hey gamera, the FSM has said it well indeed, and your post means a lot!  Thank you sir!  It is good to be back.

Thanks again sir!

Very sorry to hear of the loss of your wife. Take the time you need to greive, and move on. It's what she would have wanted you to do.

Thank you doog!  And you are so right.  She always said, that modeling always made me happy and was a great relaxer!  She absolutely would have said to move on and keep building!  Been tough getting back into anything, but I'm making progress!  Adapt and overcome!  Thank you sir!

Bobby  so sorry to hear this. the president of my COL SPGS club lost his wife in March, similar to your situation and my Denver club VP and good friend lost his wife in February, totally unexpected. both are dealing with it as well as can be expected. both are staying active in the clubs even if they can't get back to building yet. that seems to help and everyone understands if they have a moment and just get up and leave. 

So sorry to hear about your loss, Bobby.  You are so right, and I keep reminding myself that --- cherish what you have while you have it.  Whenever someone losses someone close I always tell them, he or she may be gone, but he or she will forever be in you heart now.

Thank you Wayne.  Funny how you don't think about things like this and then when they happen to you, you hear of all the others.  I'm not alone for sure.  It's weird to think that things like this happen all the time, every day.  I know how devistating it is to me and my kids.....to think it happens to someone, especially kids, everyday.  sad.

Having a moment!  How true!  It doesn't take much to set me off.  Drives me crazy!  Here I am, big bad Bobby, the Desert Storm vet, 21 year career in the Air Force, and I have moments all the time!  Coming back to Florida has been harder than I thought it would be.  This is where we met, dated, got engaged, got married....what was I thinking!?    The kids is what, but still, so many memories!

Again, thank you for the words of encouragement!

Bobby

Thank you Allan!  Yeah, the thought of all the stupid things I did and said is intense, so if I can get one person to give their spouse and hug and kiss......it will make it better!  Cherish!  Great use of the word my friend!  And very true...she will always live in our hearts!  She was absolutely awesome!

Thank you!

Bobby

I will keep your family in my prayers Bobby. Thank you for opening up and sharing what you're going through. It must help to get it out and talk about it. You do us a service by sharing your successes and struggles because it allows us to lift you (and others) up and share your burdens in a small way. And that's what we are all here for. As you said if you can get even one more person to appreciate their spouse and that helps, then I see that as a gift from your wife to you and us. I know tonight I will give my wife an extra long hug, so again I say thank you. God bless!

Eagle 90 ;

     Man , I do feel your pain . I have said goodbye to two . One from the after--affects of a drunk truck driver crushing her car and the second from the same as your spouse . It's hard my friend , but for those gifts you both brought into this world you will make it  .

 Just remember my mantra " One Day at a Time " . This too . Always try . Note I said try, to be there for their down times . Remember , they miss their Mom too ! So you have to be strong for all three of you . May you be blessed with comfort , good memories and you do have my constant prayers .

  G.J. Geracci- The Tanker - Builder

Thank you Andy!  It still seems surreal, but this happens and it is tough to go through, but we do just that, get through it...we don't have to like it, but we overcome.  And that extra long hug will last for eternity!  Thanks again for the aweosme words!

Bobby

Tanker,  Wow!  Going through this is bad enough, but twice!?  Dude, you are in my thoughts and prayers too!  One day at a time!  Amen brother!  I still have days were I walk around in that "fog", but like you said, I have two awesome kids and I will always be there for them.  Our relationships have definately gotten better during all this and we are closer then ever...I like that!  Gifts they are!  I am very thankful for them and the time I had with my wife.....awesome gifts!

Thanks again my friend!

Bobby

Oh Lord Bobby, I am so immensely sorry to hear about the loss of your wife. I always had a prayer here and there for you and your family since we last chatted. I am certainly saddened that she lost her hard fought battle. I will ensure that my prayers include you and your children. I will pray that you all heal and find peace. If you ever need to just chat or some support please feel free to give me a shout.

Also, if there is any kind of glitch getting your models and supplies in a timely manner just let me know. I'll be more than happy to send you a little care package to get you through until your fully in business again. Trust me, i know all too well the therapeutic effects of working on my models. That alone has got me through some rather rough moments.

Again Bobby, My heart goes out to you. I know that you will be OK but, please, know that you do not have to do it alone. We're all here for you.

Godspeed.

Your Friend, Joe

Hey Joe!  Thank you so much!  Thank you for the prayers, they are appreciated.  And thank you for the support!  It has been amazing the response from this.  Truly a great bunch of people here!

Thank you for the offer!  They closed the job opening this week, so, according to HR I should hear if I passed the panel in 6-8 weeks.  I've made plans to have my supply porition of my modeling stuff to be sent.  As for models!  As of right now, I plan on heading to Orlando Saturday and going to the model show there.  As you said, I think it will be therapeutic.  Everyone here is pushing me to go.  I don't do much after work, just go to my sisters and take care of the kids.  Both my kids are learning to swim!  Very cool.  So thank you sir!  Very kind of you to offer!

Again, thank you Joe!  Your thoughts and prayers mean the world to me and my family!

Bobby

I am truly sorry to hear of yours and your kids loss of a wife and mother. I'll be thinking of you and your two little ones and praying for all three of you. Continue to move forward in positive steps pal, your friend Joe.

My divorce seems trivial to what you went through.  I wish you the best in the years ahead.

Thank you Mustang!  All thoughts and prayers are appreciated!  Move forward in positive steps!  I like that, and will do my best everyday to do so!  Thank you again my friend!

Bobby

Thank you Tigerman!  And divorce is a devastating life event too!  So trivial?  No, just another life changing event one must walk out.  Not any easier I'm sure.  Thank you again!

Bobby

Bobby ;

 After I responded I thought about something that I didn't mention before . If you have any pictures of the two of you .Keep them ! Yes ! Keep them . Put them in a safe place and refer to them from time to time .

       I know everyone including me said we have to move on .Tis , true .BUT every once in a while we need to remind ourselves that Life can indeed be good . Her , You , Against the world . Then the kids .

     These Children are the books of love you both wrote defining your love and place in the scheme of things . Don't let that go . Savor it like a very fine , very rare wine .

 You can be the toughest S.O.B. on the world . But you cannot be the one to know when your heart will crumble and you turn into a gibbering crying fool . Except one thing .You are no fool . Let those feelings out . It's a long road now . Keep her alive in your heart and draw strength from those memories .Okay ? Tanker - Builder