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Posted by BlackSheepTwoOneFour on Saturday, June 18, 2016 7:15 AM

Knock it off already. With his posts being too long, I didn't catch it. Get over it. 

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Posted by templar1099 on Saturday, June 18, 2016 10:01 AM

[quote user="BlackSheepTwoOneFour"]

Knock it off already. With his posts being too long, I didn't catch it. Get over it.


Seconded.

"le plaisir delicieux et toujours nouveau d'une occupation inutile"

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Posted by Revenant on Saturday, June 18, 2016 2:53 PM

midnightprowler

Well, look at your response to him. Sheesh.

 

Yeah, glad someone called him out on his insensitive remarks...

...then there was his statement: "Been there, done that."  Seriously???

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Posted by Cobra 427 on Saturday, June 18, 2016 3:19 PM

I apologise for the lenghthy posts.I know that I hate reading through the mountain of words that other members leave from time to time. There's just so much that has happened, and it's hard to collect my thoughts let alone put them in order, or in a short order form. I did go to the vet once when she was a month old for her shots and I would've taken her again, but since she was so far gone he would've only suggested that we put her down. I insisted on going, but my old lady thought that there wouldn't be any more that they could do that we could. Which I don't understand since if you love someone that you do all you can and treat the situation with a sense of urgency, not a lackadasical attitude!

Blacksheep - no offence taken. I understand what you mean perfectly. Don't sweat it! I'm just ***ed off at everything right now, and even the slightest thing sets me off. I had to go buy a bandsaw to cut the wood for the coffin I made for Weepy. I was standing in line at Harbor Freight waiting to check out when one employee said "This lane is open. I can take someone here". Of course we had to race against time since Weepy was already dead for over twelve hours now. She was starting to smell when I got up that morning to wrap her in her burial shroud. Everyone just stood there like they had their thumbs up their butts, so I said "Some people just can't get a clue!" I wasn't trying to be rude, but some jackass in line just HAD to make a Federal case of it! I didn't say a word to him, but I've been bitter, and lashing out since then. I don't know what to do. My baby died FIGHTING FOR BREATH! Her heart had stopped then and her lungs were shutting down. I couldn't help her, nor save her!! I felt powerless then, and I feel powerless now.

I didn't want to say anything now, but I held Weepy when I was getting ready to wrap her in what she would wear forever for the last time while I was crying my eyes out. I held her up to my face and just cried! I just can't stand it! I'll always have the image of her dying in my memory as long as I live. That's one of those things that you don't simply forget no matter how much time has passed. It still hurts now as much as when it first happened.

I felt the end coming thursday since I hadn't eaten anything since before Weepy died and I only drank a small amount of liquid - just enough to barely sustain life, but I forced myself to eat a little bit and I felt guilty doing it the entire time. I still feel guilty now. I put her in the coffin that I made, and dyed pink. I put this inside a plastic Menards' bag then inside another taped shut on one end so that nothing would get in it. Then I placed this inside a plastic garbage bag and put red bricks around her to keep animals from getting to her until her body can decompose. In the meantime I'll make a masoleum for her final resting place.

I don't know how much more of this I can take either physically, or mentally. I dream about her when I close my eyes, and I STILL look down at the floor every morning looking for her when I get up, when I go to the bathroom, when I come home, etc.  I didn't cry like this when my cousin died. I didn't cry like this when my Grandmother died - either one of them. And I was close to my Grandmother!

All I can think about is when she would come up to me, and wave her tiny paw up and down  in anticipation for me to feed her as she would stand between my feet. This isn't something that you can simply teach an animal to do - she just did it! She also did this when she wanted me to pick her up, and put her on the couch and pet her. She would switch paws when I didn't go fast enough. She would stop when I looked up, but when I looked down at her again she would do it again. Then she would drink in circles lapping up the tiny blobs of unmixed formula at the bottom of the saucer I fed her from. One time she stretched out purring as I would pet her head, and ribs, and smile while laying on the couch next to me. She even made sucking sounds when she was really happy. She was truly one of a kind! Don't get me wrong - I've raised cats for years none of the ever did that! We've had birds, dogs, fish, rabbits, squirrels, and just about every animal you can think of including an alligator, and a snake that my friend had, but none of them were as cute, or had the personality, and gentle, patient sweetness that Weepy Baby did. We were truly, ultimately blessed to have her!

If you have the time - PLEASE read all my posts again very carefully. I didn't know that I had so many typos, and punctuation errors since I couldn't see straight, or think straight! I'm going to log off for now. Maybe Monday I'll come back with some pictures for others to see Weepys' coffin, and her funeral garb. I'm working on my X-wing slowly as I'm trying to get back to work as to keep myself distracted instead of boming the forums in the hope of bring myself back to reality. My state of mind isn't great right now and I don't want to be a wet blanket for everyone. Thank you all for reading. I know you ALL mean well. I do appreciate all your comments greatly - more than you'll ever know!

 

~ Cobra Chris

Maybe a picture of a squirrel playing a harmonica will make you feel better?

 

 

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Posted by midnightprowler on Saturday, June 18, 2016 5:50 PM

Chris, unlike others here you have nothing to apologize for. We all go thru different paths when grieving, and some are clueless. You hang in there friend, things will improve and some time down the road you will have room in your heart for a new furry friend.

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Posted by GMorrison on Saturday, June 18, 2016 5:57 PM

midnightprowler

Chris, unlike others here you have nothing to apologize for. We all go thru different paths when grieving, and some are clueless. You hang in there friend, things will improve and some time down the road you will have room in your heart for a new furry friend.

So now we're attacking each other?

Black Sheep gets his opinion, others get theirs.

I think you need to talk to someone who's got the time to sit down with you and work out your grief, Chris. Person to person.

In the meantime, these long posts aren't really going to do it, beyond nice expressions of sympathy.

 

 

 

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Posted by BlackSheepTwoOneFour on Saturday, June 18, 2016 9:21 PM

Please, no pics of Weepy in her funeral garb. No one wants to see it. Get some help dealing with whatever is going on in your life.

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Posted by midnightprowler on Sunday, June 19, 2016 7:34 AM

I agree with blacksheep Chris. I fully understand your grief, but there are many here who don't need or want to be reminded of their own losses, a picture just would not be in good taste, any more than a picture of a human in a coffin. Just not a good idea. Blacksheep, I apologize for coming across so harshly.

Hi, I am Lee, I am a plastiholic.

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1 Thessalonians 4:13-18 1 Corinthians 15:51-54

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Posted by BlackSheepTwoOneFour on Sunday, June 19, 2016 10:59 AM

Revenant

 

 
midnightprowler

Well, look at your response to him. Sheesh.

 

 

 

Yeah, glad someone called him out on his insensitive remarks...

 

...then there was his statement: "Been there, done that."  Seriously???

 

 

Yeah seriously, I've had to put down 3 animals due to illness in my time. Yes, they were all painful losses and a member of a family. My "been there, done that" comment is NOT an insensitive comment. It's a reality and everyone who had pets has gone through those tough losses. You simply replaced the one you loved. When I had to put down a Persian kitty who was 9 years old at the time, the house was too quiet. We decided to get another kitty a couple weeks later. 2 years after that, we added another animal - a King Charles Cavalier Spaniel to the mix.

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Posted by Revenant on Sunday, June 19, 2016 11:22 AM

I think that if it helps him through this extremely trying period he should do whatever makes him feel better.  Maybe sharing those sweet images with his Forum Family will help him through this dark period...

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Posted by BlackSheepTwoOneFour on Sunday, June 19, 2016 11:33 AM

Don't worry about it midnight prowler. Apology accepted. I'm not mad nor insulted. Sometimes things get taken out of context. I've gone through worse crap of being picked on growing up due to my handicap of being hard of hearing through the years. Try putting up with what I went through even to this day.

Personally, I do understand his grief but his long posts gets a bit long winded sounding like his world has crashed over the death of a... how can I put it? Deformed kitty. It's the law of nature whether you like it or not. Sad, yes. Fair? No, but what it is, it is. That is the reality no matter anyone feels.

 

Cobra Chris - Be thankful you have your health - no matter if they're perfect or not. We all have life issues in one form or another. You have to deal with yours some way on your own. No matter how sucky you say your life is, don't take your anger out on all of us and cause an uproar in these forums. There's no place for it here.

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Posted by templar1099 on Sunday, June 19, 2016 11:51 AM

Surreal.

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Posted by Buckeye on Monday, June 20, 2016 2:58 PM

goldhammer

Buckeye-   Thanks for putting that up, it really hits home for me, and not only for the pets we have lost.

 

You are very welcome.  I hope that it provided some comfort.

Mike

 

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Posted by GMorrison on Monday, June 20, 2016 2:59 PM

http://rainbowsbridge.com/Grief_Support_Center/Pet_Loss_Resources/petloss_hot_lines.htm

I've had to put down more than a couple of Labs over the years, some before their time and some after a long and happy life.

I've found Rainbows Bridge to be an excellent resource, and reccomend them to anyone in need of counseling.

 

Bill

 Modeling is an excuse to buy books.

 

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Posted by Cobra 427 on Tuesday, June 21, 2016 2:39 PM

BlackSheepTwoOneFour

Please, no pics of Weepy in her funeral garb. No one wants to see it. Get some help dealing with whatever is going on in your life.

 

midnightprowler
No Sir - I feel that would be in poor taste, and distrespectful. I took those pictures more for me than for anyone here on the forum, or in my personal life. It was more for poseterity, and to ground me with the knowledge that she's truly gone, and I'll never see here again. It just doesn't feel real since she was up running around a couple days before, and she went down hill so fast. Knowing that at THIS TIME last week she was still alive - fighting for her life, but still with us.

Chris, unlike others here you have nothing to apologize for. We all go thru different paths when grieving, and some are clueless. You hang in there friend, things will improve and some time down the road you will have room in your heart for a new furry friend.

 

I won't be looking for any more animals to adopt, or rescue. I didn't with these - they just happened upon us. I don't intentionally go out to find an animal to feed, clean up after, destroy what I worked for, etc. The two kitties that we rescued from the backyard are enough. The rest of them came from circumstance. I don't want a replacement, just the one that got away! I'm not big on speeches, so I won't clutter this post with a bunch of talk, just know that it will take a long while to stop hurting so intensely, but it'll never stop altogether. Now I see why people drink themselves to death!

GMorrison
I think you need to talk to someone who's got the time to sit down with you and work out your grief, Chris. Person to person.

In the meantime, these long posts aren't really going to do it, beyond nice expressions of sympathy.

I Understand. This won't be a long diatribe that's hard to read, and upsetting to all. I needed some way to release, but without trying to cause more grief for the members of this forum. Ypu are right - I need someone to help me with the loss of my baby. She was everything to me. I have no one that I know that I can reach out to emotionally in my family, or circle of friends.

midnightprowler

I agree with blacksheep Chris. I fully understand your grief, but there are many here who don't need or want to be reminded of their own losses, a picture just would not be in good taste, any more than a picture of a human in a coffin.

 

No Sir! I would never do that. Weepys' burial shroud covers her completely - I would NEVER take a picture of someone in a coffin, or of a dead animal in a similar manner. That's simply poor taste! I would no more do that than I would post a link to a picture of it either. It's just to give me a sense of reality since it feels unreal. She just died a week ago today. I'm still living, and getting used to the idea that I'll never see her again.

[quote user="BlackSheepTwoOneFour] You simply replaced the one you loved. When I had to put down a Persian kitty who was 9 years old at the time, the house was too quiet. We decided to get another kitty a couple weeks later. 2 years after that, we added another animal - a King Charles Cavalier Spaniel to the mix.

 

[/quote]That's just what I don't want to do - replace what I've loved with another thing. It's not loving to do, and I feel it's a little disrespectful too. It only diminishes the quality of memory of the ones that I had before. We only got the animals we have now from highly unusual circumstances.

 

GMorrison

http://rainbowsbridge.com/Grief_Support_Center/Pet_Loss_Resources/petloss_hot_lines.htm

I've had to put down more than a couple of Labs over the years, some before their time and some after a long and happy life.

I've found Rainbows Bridge to be an excellent resource, and reccomend them to anyone in need of counseling.

 

Bill

 

Thank you for the link, Sir I greatly appreciate it. This is what I need - recooperation, not just a venting of my frustrations. I didn't start this thread to rain on other peoples' parades, start arguements, or make others feel bad in any way. I'm only venting, and hoping someone can offer some relief. I know that we all have our disagreements with each other from time to time, and take something someone said the wrong way, but this is a fight with myself, and with God. I'm on the losing end, and there's not a damned thing I can do about it!

When I look back I was right when we were on the way to my friends' house for his daughters' graduation party; I said "I absolutely love Weepy!She's the best thing that ever happened to me. I better not say that too loud  -  God's always listening, and will use any excuse to take something away from me!" I was right - he and he did! Simply to hurt me again. I've already lost three cats, one rabbit, two cousins, two grandmothers, an aunt, a dog, and now Weepy in the last four years I don't know if I can take any more physically or mentally.  I lost my cousin last year, and now my last living grandparent, and Weepy within a few months of each other! I do appreciate everyone who has participated here, and for your wishes, and prayers. I haven't had a lot of time to recover my grandma dying, now Weepy too?! Ugh. I think that God hates me and that he's trying his level best to show it. Thank you all for reading.

 

~ Cobra Chris

Maybe a picture of a squirrel playing a harmonica will make you feel better?

 

 

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