Well you are going to wake up in your own bed, and it's you who chooses who you have lying next to you. No one person wears the pants, if that's a metaphor for who's in control, in a successful marriage, IMHO.
But, apropos to these forums, we are all creative types who are interested in history, are dedicated to doing things right the first time, and who aren't afraid to show the world what we can do.
If you get married, marry someone like that.