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  • From: ohio I want to leave
Frustrated
Posted by armor 2.0 on Thursday, February 01, 2018 9:36 AM

How do you build models when people refuse to leave you alone.Being winter in Ohio places where I can build are limted.one person constantly bothers me almost like they see I'm really at peace and enjoying myself and there basically miserable and there not happy so they try to disrupt what I'm doing.i  even tried locking the door then there constantly knocking on it. Im at the end of my stick I'm ready to use it for club.

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  • From: Barrie, Ontario
Posted by Cdn Colin on Thursday, February 01, 2018 9:43 AM

Who's not leaving you alone?  What's your relationship to them?  What are they bugging you about?  Perhaps they're curious and interested in joining you.  

Perhap you need to sit down with this person and explain your problem.  

If they're simple holes and won't leave you in peace, I would be tempted to wait until they're relaxing and then pestering them with inane things.  But, perhaps other people have better ideas.

 

I build 1/48 scale WW2 fighters.

Have fun.

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Posted by Keyda81 on Thursday, February 01, 2018 10:59 AM

I know the feeling!  It's usually my Mom blowing up my phone and asking me to run errands or my 8 year old daughter just trying to get in my personal space.  Don't get me wrong, I love my Mom and daughter, but at the end of the day I should be allowed to have some time to myself.  Everything else is taken care of before I head off to my room to work on my models.  I've cleaned, done the laundry, taken my Mom where she needs to go, made dinner, and done the dishes, now leave me be!  I had to lock my daughter out of my room last night.  Didn't stop my mother from blowing up my phone though.Bang Head  I really don't think it's too much to ask for a few hours of alone time.  My daughter can go bug her father.  I'm not the only adult in the house! 

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  • From: Streetsboro, Ohio
Posted by Toshi on Thursday, February 01, 2018 11:21 AM

Like you, I do have interruptions often.  But it’s my grandson or Mrs. Toshi.  The only difference is I enjoy their company.  My days are somewhat like Keyda81.  

It is very difficult.  I currently administer IV Antibiotics every eight hours (6:00pm, 2:00am, and 10:00am) to Mrs. Toshi for the next four weeks.  I also clean, cook, do the laundry, and shopping, sometimes while watching my eighteen month old grandson all the while.  But I do this because I love them so much.

My current bench time is zero as I’m too tired to do anything.  lol!  I have to blockade my bench area with a gate so that my grandson cannot enter.  He always goes for the Eclipse AB.  I guess he’s smart enough to know what is the expensive toy.  lol!  Maybe this Saturday and Super Bowl Sunday I can put in a little bench time.

Until then...

Your friend, Toshi

 

Retired due to work related injury

Married to the most caring, loving, understanding, and beautiful wife in the world.  Mrs. Toshi

 

On the Bench:  My Valentines gift from Mrs. Toshi!  A Trumpeter 1/32 Me Bf 109 G6

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  • From: Indiana, USA
Posted by Greg on Thursday, February 01, 2018 12:19 PM

I was prepared to write a reply griping about interuptions (what the heck, miserly loves company). Seems I can go weeks not hitting the bench, then one time I settle in and get in the middle of something and ..........."Honey!?!?!?"

Then I read Toshi's post and was reminded that I have no problems, and after living alone for several years, having somebody to 'bother' me is a blessing.

Life's reminders can be funny that way and Toshi, you are a trooper.

Still, I do hope you find some bench time peace.

-Greg

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Posted by Tojo72 on Thursday, February 01, 2018 12:40 PM
Really can’t ascertain too much about your problem from your sketchy details,but it seems it’s either a roommate or a family member.Roomates can be told off,but if it’s family member,spouse,or significant other,then their are other deep seated problems here that need to be addressed,because if a loved one can’t give you any “me” time,something’s wrong with the relationship.

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  • From: ohio I want to leave
Posted by armor 2.0 on Thursday, February 01, 2018 12:52 PM

[quote user="Tojo72"]Really can’t ascertain too much about your problem from your sketchy details,but it seems it’s either a roommate or a family member.Roomates can be told off,but if it’s family member,spouse,or significant other,then their are other deep seated problems here that need to be addressed,because if a loved one can’t give you any “me” time,something’s wrong with the relationship.

 

It's a 83 year old relative that does nothing but worry and be miserable I try to have empathy towards this female button she pushing it.

 

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  • From: Willamette Valley, Oregon
Posted by goldhammer on Thursday, February 01, 2018 1:05 PM

Have you tried to explain that the time working on a model is needed to relax and decompress?  She might be suffering from memory loss/altsheimezers, and is insecure.   In that case not much you can do. Maybe pull up another chair and let her watch as you paint or assemble?

Hope it improves for  you.

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  • From: Bethlehem PA
Posted by the Baron on Thursday, February 01, 2018 1:17 PM

Since it's an elderly relative, I would just try as best as possible to put up with it.

As my parents got older, I realized that the day would come when they wouldn't be around any more, and I decided not to let it bother me when my mother would call me at work just to chat, for example.  And I wouldn't let something keep me from going to ballgames with my dad on Sundays in the summer.  Because when they weren't there anymore, I'd wish they were.

The bigger the government, the smaller the citizen.

 

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Posted by Tojo72 on Thursday, February 01, 2018 1:41 PM

[quote user="armor 2.0"]

Tojo72
Really can’t ascertain too much about your problem from your sketchy details,but it seems it’s either a roommate or a family member.Roomates can be told off,but if it’s family member,spouse,or significant other,then their are other deep seated problems here that need to be addressed,because if a loved one can’t give you any “me” time,something’s wrong with the relationship.
 

It's a 83 year old relative that does nothing but worry and be miserable I try to have empathy towards this female button she pushing it.

 

 

Ahh,well yes that is a very difficult situation,one that needs patience and understanding,and empathy from us.Your initial post made it sound like some inconsiderate person eho knew better.Hoping your situation can improve.

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  • From: Orlando Florida
Posted by route62 on Thursday, February 01, 2018 2:14 PM

When my daughter was young and would come to me while working on my builds i gave her legos and told her to build something just like me.  She loved it, kept her busy, we interacted.  As she got older and she could handle the small tools, blades, paints etc i got her building models with me.  Soon she was shooing away her mother and telling her that we are busy and concentrating.

fox
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  • From: Narvon, Pa.
Posted by fox on Thursday, February 01, 2018 3:23 PM

I usually get all the time I want, or need. But there are those times ........... just mixed up a  small batch of paint on the plastic lid for a small job and placed it in the AB, put the exhaust in the window, turned on the exhaust and "Hun, can you come down and give me a hand for a minute or two"? Just enough time for the paint to dry up in the cup.Sad Goes with the territory.

Jim  Captain

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   On the Bench:   Revell 1/48 Ju 52/3m - 50%;  Revell 1/96 USS Kearsarge - 20% 

I keep hitting "escape", but I'm still here.

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Posted by BlackSheepTwoOneFour on Thursday, February 01, 2018 5:52 PM

Been there myself. I’m still trying to find time of peace where no one bothers me for one reason or another so I can work on my models. It’s been at least 2 years since I’ve been on the bench.

In the meantime, I’ve been collecting paints, supplies and kits instead. I guess life and family is always in the way for the time being.

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  • From: Douglas AZ
Posted by littletimmy on Thursday, February 01, 2018 7:24 PM

Not sure about all the detail's of your relative's life, but I know the elderly can get lonely.

Does she have friend's ? Doe's she get out of the house occasionally, or is she "home bound" ? She may be just looking for some companionship.

I know it suck's, but you might need to spend 10 or 20 minute's "Chit - Chatting " with her....  try to tire her out.... she may want a nap after a lengthy in-depth conversation about whether to use kit supplyed track's , or aftermarket track's

     

 

    

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Posted by Retired In Kalifornia on Thursday, February 01, 2018 7:34 PM

armor 2.0

How do you build models when people refuse to leave you alone.Being winter in Ohio places where I can build are limted.one person constantly bothers me almost like they see I'm really at peace and enjoying myself and there basically miserable and there not happy so they try to disrupt what I'm doing.i  even tried locking the door then there constantly knocking on it. Im at the end of my stick I'm ready to use it for club.

 

Oh my, never had to contend with people bugg'n me, fell for y'all here!

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