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- From: Greencastle, IN
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Posted by eizzle
on Friday, November 24, 2006 9:23 AM
zokissima wrote: | I used to spend about 10-20 hours a week modelling. Slowly that's dropped down to 5 or less per week. I do consider myself a 'serious' builder, whatever that term means. Problems are work, school, and namely the girlfriend. I can go without watching TV or playing games, but I don't do too much of that as it is. Problem is, even if I'm in the same room with her, and we're both watching TV, just on the side I'm working on my model, she considers it as time not spent together, and bit#$3$, so the modeling time is going down further and further. Last week I spent no time on it whatsoever. |
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IMHO, I think you need to explain to her about "ME" time. That you can't spend every waking moment of everyday pleasing her, don't try to, its not fair to you. Don't neglect her or be a jerk, but be reaslistic, you do need time to yourself, that is one of those things that people start to crave after awhile. I would just explain to her that you need that time, and a few hours every couple days would help. Your relationship will improve, trust me, its something that you must have, the more she pushes you towards her, the more you will resent her, I can tell you already are starting to, just by the things you said. Trust me, if its a problem with her, there is a problem deeper than just you working on models. Trust can be an issue with some people, actually most, I struggle with it from time to time with my fiance, as does she... of course, being 350 miles away from each other for 3 years isn't helping that, but still! You need to sit down and have a serious heart to heart with her, don't be mean, and don't be a jerk or unrealistic about what you want, but be firm on what is important to you, and comprimise on the things that don't matter, and don't dismiss her feelings as BS, cause if she does feel them, they are real to her, and they should be to you to. Granted, I don't know how serious your relationship is, but if it is worth keeping, then it is something I would do now, rather than waiting until its pushed you two apart. Remember one thing though, be honest, and don't let her guilt you into something you don't want to do! Good luck bro!
Colin
Homer Simpson for president!!!
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