wives......oh boy!

In one of Polish comedies, there was a talk like this:
"-What do you mean "mistake" ? My wife's first name was "mistake" !
I know it already that second wives are much better than first ones (one of my friends always says about his one-and-only wife - "She is my FIRST wife"). The solution of your problem can be like this: The man should have his own inteterst or hobby - if not he could spend his money for beverages or tobacco - so what do you (our ladies) prefer ? ;o))) Aleksander

Touchee, Ray.

I've already started brushing up on my geneology skills.

demono69

QUOTE: Originally posted by 13b20 I think that husbands and wives need seperate hobbies for the good of these relationships.

I agree but in order to have a lasting relationship you have to take an interest in what your partner does and share their excitement and enthusiasm even if you don't quite understand what it is all about. Having someone to share your latest perfected technique only works if they actually do that - share your excitement. Nothing kills that 'high' quicker than trying to share it with someone who doesn't reciprocate, as can be seen by the posts that started this thread. It also works the other way too. If we want our wives, g/f, etc to get excited about what we do we need to show some interest in their hobbies as well.

Ray

I hear alot of guys (and 1 gal) saying some good things about their partners. That's great! Then there are the not so good stories. I think that husbands and wives need seperate hobbies for the good of these relationships. Of course I'm outside of this group so my opinion doesn't matter much. But I wanted to put in my 2 cents worth. (it's a cheap way to up my posting numbers) :->

My wife instigated me getting back into the hobby and did a wonderful job being able to recognize tank types, figures, historical time periods etc. She gets enthusiastic about new projects and patiently says "that looks good" or "why don't you try this?"I guess its pay off for all the times I held her horse at shows, helped groom, trailer, attach and unattach equipment, learned the terminology (even though I never use it properly) and tried to accomodate her hobbies and fun. Since we work together we both appreciate the "time off" from eah other with our respective hobbies, but also share similar hobbies so it balances out.

The only problems are keeping the conversations straight.
- How's the new dressage move?
- Pretty good, how about the tank?
- Marvelous, going to paint it soon.
- There's a new paint horse out at the barn.
- Yeah maybe a barn or maybe a burned out building.
- No he didn't burn out, he just didn't run well.
- I think tomorrow I'll give it a shot of paint.
- WHAT? Shoot him? Why? What made you think of that?
- Huh? What? Sorry dear, what were you saying?
- See. you never listen.
- Nah, I sprayed it with dullcoat, so it won't glisten.

She rocks.

Mike

My wife is very supportive of my hobby, very, if I need some thing for a build that I'm doing, she will spend lots of time going to the shops for me, or finding things, she will somtimes go in the the model shop if she is passing and buy a kit for me - she knows what types I like and scales and stuff - great.

Jmixon,

Tell her that not only does her Zero look better than your Corsair, but it could probably shoot yours down too. :D

IOW, give her some encouragement.

Regards,

-Drew

Interesting point about the significant other building kits. I too wanted my fiance to build a kit...I asked her to join me to the local IPMS event recently. Next thing I know she is dragging me over to the "Make in Take" area to help her with a model!!! WHAT!?!?! [:0] Im going crazy at this point. Im kicking back in the chair and watching my wife to be build a model with a little glue, 1 sanding stick, and some decals. CAN YOU BELIEVE THAT!! and then she HAD to display her little japanese Zero right next to my fully detailed Corsair...She smerks and says that her's looks better than mine...

well we're a whole crafty-artistic family so no one gives anyone any grief about whatever they're doing be it drawing, scrapping, knitting, sewing, modeling, quilting, furniture-refinishing, cooking (yes, it's a creative art), or whatever....an it's unbelivable how much random stuff from coke tops to styrofoam packing doesnt get thrown away now as it's useful to one of the many hobbies...

hey coldwar...you should get your wife a "discovery flight"...if you have an airstrip nearby, they usually offer a 1-time lesson where you actually get to fly the plane with the instructor sitting right next to you...all they do is take off and land...i did it and wanted to take flying lessons the next day!

women always complain

must be their selfish ego

give them some lipstick and a mirror and they are silenced...

in the meanwhile let's start a new kit....and both are silenced....

The perfect woman, building kits and playing with something else...you like!

Hello

Well I've been married for 33 years and to date I've not received a single word about my hobby....... only acceptance of it! I too agree with oldhooker and his grandmother in that my '''cave" is my model room, as a matter of fact my old modeling room (in a former house in Knoxville, Tn) was called "the cave" with a display area in the house. Now here in Stone Mountain,GA (we've inherited her parents home) I will have to finish the basement to have enough room for them all, but that's OK. I've still not gotten the "Oh, it's plastic" lines thrown on me.

Vance

Good job seevee. I would love to get my wife to build one. I think that she would like it, but it is like trying to get her to go shooting with me...it'll happen one day.

oldhooker, I have suggested to my wife that I finish trying for those pilot's license that I just couldn't afford to finish when I was 18, no go on that one. I have yet to be able to get her in a plane. Maybe you could talk some sense into her about it. She supports almost everything else that I do though.

Jerry

G'day

My story is different again. After being away from this hobby for 20 odd years, I dug out some old kits & got back into it. Whilst browsing thru a local hobby shop (after being dragged in by yours truly), the Mrs says "I want to make one too". So she got herself a 1/48 Revellogram Wildcat (cheap & not difficult).

The next time she went in to the shop, she buys (for herself) a 1/48 Academy AVG Tomahawk. Since then she's bought a Revellogram Fokker Dr.1 & a Huey gunship.

Needless to say there aren't too many complaints re kits hogging up desk space. Cant complain can I !

.... 22 years ago next Wednesday, I was giving airplane rides at Richlands Municipal Airport, Va. on a pleasant Saturday afternoon. Three girls pulled into the parking lot and said they wanted to go airplane riding; twin sisters and their friend who lived in a town about 35 miles up the road. I had a Skyhawk that day, and the twin with the prettiest smile, Lisa, was asked to sit up front beside me. Their ride lasted considerably longer than what was usual, as I was picking small cumulous clouds to fly through the edge of, up around 5,000'.

We got back down and as Lisa was getting out, she said "That is the best time I've ever had in my life", while looking right into my eyes with that *look*.... you know, THAT look! Three months later she became Mrs. White!

Not long after that, she appeoached me one day and asked; "Which one do you love better, flying or me?" I said; "Honey, you'll always come first in my life, but Flying runs a very close second, and I'd hate to ever have to choose between the two." So she never said anything else about my flying, and my model building (which pre-dated flying by about 10 years) became something she just accepts as Part of Who I Am.

About 14 years ago, my Grandmother taught her how to make Quilts by hand, so she spends just as much time consumed in her hobby too. Modeling in my "Cave", and Quilting is hers, we respect that about each other.

"Honey, have you been cleaning up my work desk again?"
Frank

My wife is completely non-commital about the whole thing. If I do it, fine. If not, she won't get her LHD of the Kearsarge done, but she never had one before, so who cares? As long as I don't spend more than the rent, she doesn't really mind. She just never understood us artistic types and musicians. (Yes, I'm both)

demono69

Longhair said it..............,
My wife pretends to be really interested but doesn't see or fully understand all of the effort that goes into creating a "scale replica" instead of a "model". She does, however, have an appreciation for my skills, and often remarks on how lifelike or realistic my work is (so do my clients!) because she's very into all forms if arts and crafts. She's very good at what she does.
She never gives me a hard time about my slowly growing collection of unbuilt kits - but every now and then gives me a very hard time about building one for myself instead of for clients (haven't built one for myself for 3 years - too busy with the paying jobs) - she says it's time I did one for myself so that I can enjoy it.

She's pretty cool. I think I'll keep her. She's also probably the only one out there who'll put up with me...........
Cheers,
LeeTree

You are right, many wives do not understand the modeler they have at home.
Two usual questions: 1) Where are you going to place all those unbuild models?
2) Where are you going to place all those built models?
Who can understand them?

my g/f always tells me she likes watching me do models but everytime i look she is on the computer so where is the watching goin on. i come to the conclusion in her head she loves me doing models cuz then i am not on computer and she can get on it lol.

How different can you get. My ex while on a day out with the chileren and me to a preserved railway said while standing in the shop '"Do all these records just have the sound of trains going Choo Choo!" You could have heard a pindrop and used my face for a red light. My wife (No2) can tell which loco is hauling the excursion train up the mountains by its exhaust beat!! And will usualy come with me to watch and photo it if its a new one.
I'll keep this one!
Dai

I've been very lucky. My fiance is very supportive and is always coming by my work area and checking out my work. She will say: "Hey sweetie what you doin?" and I will begin to go into a lengthy discussion about how im using some new technique I learned. She will tell me how cool something looks and won't hesitate to point out my mistakes when I mess up. Yeah, its a match made in heaven I tell ya. But there is one thing she keeps nagging me about...."Where you gonna put it??"

Heh...same here I guess. My story is a little different. I'm into, well, cars. In my case, a Toyota Supra Turbo. I've owned the car a few years and really love it. Suddenly, after allot of miles, the engine started knocking. I was trying to decide if it made more sense to keep and rebuild the engine or sell it...which would have broke my heart. I told my girlfrined about it and immdeiatly she said, "Well, I guess you better fix it then huh"? The car is fixed and my girlfriend and I are now engaged.

Congratulations Hoser, and I hope that she continues to be your current wife for a loooong time!

Jerry

Amen, Longhair and Coldwar. My current wife (hmmm ... that doesn't sound quite right) is very supportive of my modeling and my 1:1 automotive projects. Right now, I'm working on an AMT '67 GTO for her daughter. I machined a few bits for it out of aluminum and when I showed them to her, she shook her head, smiled, gave me a squeeze and told me her daughter will love it. She will actually come up and watch what I'm doing and ask questions. She's a peach. (Found her on the Internet, BTW)

I am pretty lucky in that my wife tolorates and somewhat appreciates my hobby. She doesn't like my airplanes, unless they are painted with a pretty color, but she really likes my wooden sailing ships.

My wife is quite indulgent and I have few complaints ... except that she tries to govern how many models I have in progress at a given time. The other day I got a shrink -wrapped kit off the stack (wanted to open it and determine what preparations I might need to take for it). She saw me do it and said, "What are you doing? You don't need to start another model until you finish a couple that you already started." I just looked at her a moment and replied, "Excuse me, but this is my hobby; I do it for fun. I don't need to have my hobby 'managed' by anyone other than myself, thank you very much."

Qapla'

SSB

My wife is very supportive of all of my half-finished kits setting on my desk and the ones still in the boxes on the shelf. Heck, she even helps me out by buying me new ones to add to my growing collection. She appreciates the work that I do get finished too. She has a couple of my D&D miniatures that I have painted out for display. Heylonghair is right, if you can find one that is supportive of your hobby...she's a keeper!

Jerry

I'm not married, but the girls like a guy with a hobby. Except of course when I get bored with them and say "i'm going upstairs to build models....you coming or you leaving now?".....great way to get the house to myself again :)

I appreciate my wife but I obviously don't appreciate her enough. I feel for you guys but I can't imagine what that's like. My wife is very supportive of my hobby (even though she bugs me sometimes about how many kits I have on the shelf) and she really tries to share my excitement even if she doesn't always "get it". She is a crafter herself though so she is always finding stuff in the craft sections and asking me if this would work for something or telling me that would be great for this. You guys have my sympathy and if you ever find a supportive woman don't ever let her go!!!!!

Ray

I know what ya mean...
Girlfriends can be even more cruel!
Whenever she can't sleep, she says, "tell me about that tank thing your building..."
ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ

She's gone in 35 seconds!