Two weeks in the trash

Henry, my friend, this is something I hate to hear, because I've had the same type of experience with a certain number of my models. No-one likes it and be certain that at some stage, in a way or another, this has happened to all of us, probably more than once.

My advice is to take your loss and learn to live with it. And get any spare parts you can salvage in your spare box! One day you might be very happy to have a couple of spare wheels or the like, believe me!

One thing though, I do know hoew you feel, but this is a site visited by lots of people from various ages and cultures and it might be worth you 'toning down' your anger, particularly when it comes to expressing it with swear words...

Look at it from the bright side… Apparently that camo job was just a little too good!

Sorry to hear about the incident. Rest assured that if you stick with the hobby long enough, something like this is bound to happen again. All I can say is “next time you will know not to leave it on the floor.”

Pantless, you should talk to someone in person about this. Try siblings, friends, teachers, or a psychiatrist. You need help. No one should hate being alive, and a little thing like a broken model shouldn't send you over the edge. Your anger clearly runs much deeper than that. Smile and try to get over this little modeling setback and then try to deal with what it is that really bothers you.

Dude, by the way, I just visited your website, and you've got some talent with the airbrush. Nice paintjobs on the Stug and Panther.

Pantsless-
I agree with ShamRage- you do beautiful work - that winter camo is superb...and I'd be thrilled if my Panther V paint looked as good as yours did.

I also agree with him that you need to talk to someone about what's goin on inside you. That's too much rage to have for someone your age. Find someone to talk to...a priest, a rabbi, a professor. Please get some help.

Dude, I've been there many times! I also hated being alive when I was your age! I got into models partly to forget that as well, but mostly because of a good friend who helped my with my modeling skills. I understand your frustration with losing a model to a family members clumsiness and/or carelessness. I had two younger brothers that used to play with my models all the time. I could tell when they were at it because I'd come back in and find my models broken and misplaced. Yes, I got angry too. Still, with the help of my mom, I found someone to talk to at school. She and my friend Emmanuel down the street helped pull me through it all. I hope you will find someone who'll do the same for you.

Man, you are a whiz with the Airbrush! That is incredible what you did on that Panther, and the Stug! Woah! I'll never be able to do that, and I've been buildiing for over thirty years!

Henry you have a lot of talent as seen from your website, don't let this incident discourage you. We have all had unfortunate things happen to us during a build, but somehow we shake it off and continue to do what we love. As advised by other members, it would be in your best interest to seek the inner problem that bedevils you, to correct it and become a happier person. Good luck.

Henry my friend, you are not alone... My parents did the same thing to my room and some other things and guess what they managed to break... My Beautiful Tiger, 2 shemans, a StugIII g late, My gorgues tiger II... which I spent a good month on, my podrace which I won first place in a competition several years ago, my USS MISIOURI, FORESTAL, FLETCHER, and PT 109, and lastly my dio with my first 88 gun I ever built. not to mention some figures I did up real nice and they practically handed them to the dog. however I am glad to say I managed to finally get it through their thick skulls and they have pretty much stopped meadling in my affairs, except when I destroy something on accident. Try haveing several talks with ur parents, it worked wonders for me. just a word of caution though DONT GET UPSET or YELL what ever you do, and you will have an easier time, it took me like 3 trys to figure that one out. good luck man, and sometimes I know what you mean about the hate being alive thing. but hang in there man. things are slowly getting better for me.

PS> how old are you??? 7-10, 11-13,12-16 or higher??? I just want to know what age you got in this boat at. for me it was 12 years old, they never managed to wreack the crap models that dont deserve to be called models, they always manage to wreck the good ones. lol I had a whole shelf of worthless models that had been moved carefully, and there they are sitting there with a sherman I spent 3 weeks on.. "Im sorry honey... we accidently broke it" lol I just sit there, with an O M G ( )look on my face, then I slowly look at the shelf of crap models all nicley arranged!? DUDE they couldnt wreck the modles I didnt care about!?

Damn dude you do have talent, Dont give up the hobby till u atleast get your work published in FSM!

Looking at you web site youve got as many unfinished kits as me
but when you do finish them they are worth waiting for
i hope you get everything worked out
Take care of yourself Henry

Erf.

dude, just rig your models with some det cord and a spool of constanteena wire ( RAZOR WIRE ) they'll be more careful after the first one!

JFYI, it just sounds like you need to get away from home and the whole area, join the army or something take a break from school, move into an apartment close to main campus, join a fraternity, either way, it all makes going home to visit much better (the mom and dad will pamper the heck out of ya )

I hope you don't consider this response "funny."
I know absolutely nothing about you or your family and life situation, but since you have chosen to express here in the forums your anger towards your parents and evidently life in general, you obviously are looking for support. Which everyone here is trying to provide.
I'm not going to butter you up with compliments, because I don't think that's what you're looking for.
I will only offer this advice: do your best to communicate with your family. Let them know how you feel. Ask them for help. And listen.

I hope your situation improves.

as much as you probably think my sympathy is just because of the boat your in, its not, I only feel sympathetic for people who I think deserve it. (not very many at all) most things I could care less about, but I know how you feel cause I'm there and have been for a while. Plus that is sad dude lol you havnt celebrated a Birthday in 9 years or so...

Henry: I think we have all been in the same boat as you at one point.... I had a mother that was a cleaning fanatic ( obsessive compulsiveis what the shrinks call it ) where she would storm through our rooms at any time of day or night and start throwing stuff away and breaking things we cared about! I remember one morning my sisters were crying in the room next to me and she was on one of her tirades practically destroying all af their things !!! It was ridculous to be honest .. I don't think you parents are trying to break your beloved projects on purpose ( I would certainly hope it is an accident anyhow) From the looks of your stuff you have the drive to do anything you would want to do , very high quality work especially for a 19 year old , excellent attention to detail there . So don't give up on it , Its a great hobby that gives you a great sense of accomplishment when you pull off a new technique or paintjob! Did you know that some people in this world have no hobbies or interests at all except doing drugs and drinking , now those are lives wasted !!!! You have talent my friend keep going ! And remeber this when ya move out of their home ,,,, your girlfriend , wife and or kids will be breaking them too ![:0] Believe me I know that firsthand as well ! Peace .... Shawn

My dad employed some cynical myopic old hag to do the cleaning in our house after my parents seperated when I was 15. She managed to damage each and every kit I had ever built, so she was soon banned from my brother's and my room. I feel your pain..

By the way, you are annoyingly good with that airbrush. I'd say use that talent and do something with that talent besides modelling. Ever thought of channelling this anger and putting it into paintings?

I'm no psychologist, took alot of it in college, but my guess is you aren't being paid attention too, maybe not being understood. It's not uncommon at 19 to not have a goal or direction in life. Heck, I was there too. It lasted for some 6 more years. You can't conquer the world over night. I assume you are aloner; no girlfriend? What you said in your opening post screams, " Please someone listen to me". You know what? We did and we we are here to listen some more. Most depressed people who threaten suicide almost always threaten to carry it out, but what they really want is an ear and some understanding. It's really important to consult with a professional on the matter. I'm not embarressed to admit that my wife and I had counseling some 2 years ago and things are better than ever. Give it a try, it can only improve your situation. God Bless.

Get yourself a girlfriend.
In a matter of minutes you will be saying "what panther".

That's my version of "take 2 and call me in the morning"

................the best revenge...is to live well..........jeffl

QUOTE: Originally posted by muzzleflash88 Get yourself a girlfriend. In a matter of minutes you will be saying "what panther". That's my version of "take 2 and call me in the morning"

Hey now, steady on there! Thasts what made me forget completely about models for at least 5 years!

Language, gentlemen, language. I have edited Mr. Pantsless's original post and one or two others to remove wording that is entirely inappropriate for this forum. Oddly enough, the posts still say what they are meant to say. As we know from the comic take off on an educational filmstrip, the F word has many uses, but NONE of them are appropriate to FineScale.com.

That said, the original poster's problem is not uncommon, and many of us sympathize. You've received plenty of good advice for dealing with it both in the short term and in the long term.

Pantsless, you are very angry, and we all get very angry sometimes. We've all been where you are now. You seethe, and sometimes say things you don't really mean. But it passes.

When I am feeling very down and out, I always think of the lyrics to a great song, written by Canada's greatest folk singer. You can see them here:

http://www.lyricsfind.com/lyrics/4455/43952.php

They never fail to bring a tear to my eye, and to inspire me to go on.

Henry,
all i can say about life being pointless is 'it depends'.
college is just a glorified prep school for jobs.
most jobs make no difference in the grand scheme of things.
few of us will discover or invent anything significant,
create world peace, end hunger or cure a disease.
most of us will never try.
most of those that try will certainly fail.

my job merely provides me w/ an income, which allows me to live indoors,
eat regularly, drive a car & buy hobby stuff.
and take vacations and . . .

for me the 'point' of life has turned out to be my interactions (relationships)
with those around me.
the forum brings me great enjoyment as i get to see people helping one another
while they 'show off' their stuff.
our hobby does not change the world.
but it gives us pleasure while we pass time here.
and it introduces us to others who are like us, if only in this one respect.

i am 37, i graduated from college in 1988.
i am preparing to leave my 3rd 'pointless' job, and begin my 4th.
somewhere closer to my girlfriend.
believe me when i tell you that things will get better.
and worse.
and better still.
and worse yet.
there will be times when you look back on this and think your reaction was silly.
and other days when it makes you as furious as it does now.

our only choices (in life or our hobby or anything else ) are to keep plugging along or quit.

i hope you stick it out.

much like my models, this has not come out exactly as i had hoped.
but i hope it is close enough so you can see what i was attempting.
ed.

Thanks Lawrence!

Sorry to hear about all your problems and that your parents are morons.... remember some things may be genetic.... hmmm.

Ron

I just visited your webpage and have to commend you on your two paintjobs..
the winter scheme on the Stug is excellent. I hope you take the time to finish
all the other "crap" and make them beautiful as well... ~:)

Regards, Dan