Primer should always be a flat finish as it provides the necessary "tooth" for the paint to adhere to. I've used both Mr.Surfacer and Tamiya Primer and both work fine for me. I prefer the Tamiya primer because it provides a finer finish. I can only find Mr.Surfacer 1000 spray primer and its less fine than Tamiya. Mr.Surfacer 1200 primer provides a very fine, velvety smooth finish but I can't find it in a spray can. Instead I have to spray the 1200 using my AB, suitably thinned with lacquer thinner. Given the choice I use Tamiya in the spray can simply because its easier to apply! EVERY primer I've ever used (even cheap hardware store brand) has been flat.
I suspect the problems you're having can be attributed to paint type, paint thinning, AB pressure, spray distance, etc.....either one of these or a combination of them.
Ernest
Last Armor Build - 1/35 Dragon M-26A1, 1/35 Emhar Mk.IV Female
Last Aircraft Builds - Hobby Boss 1/72 F4F Wildcat & FW-190A8