I generally buy the kit if available, and use detail from the kit. Also, since I have the kit, I tack it together and measure to see what size I need.
Otherwise, scale drawings and a desired scale allow you to figure out what diameter you need (I assume you want the OD).
Unfortunately, tubing does not always come in the size necessary to build a given rocket in a given scale. In that case you must either use another scale if you want to use off-the-shelf tubing, or else use formers and skin instead of tubing.