Wow guys thanks SO much! I'm sorry I haven't been as involved here as I should be - for some reason I stopped getting email notifications of responses.
I think my biggest problem is trying to rush through the seam work and not letting things set up, in combination with using too much pressure and sanding too much. I have been trying to experiement with some of the putties that can be "wiped" down (Tamiya or Mr. Surfacer with Lacquer or Perfect Plastic with water) but these seem to be a little bit finicky for me.
Patience, gentleness, and learning when to stop sanding are going to be my keys to success, it seems like. I am working on an F-14 and F-18 and they both have plenty of seams that I am working on for some good practice.
To answer one of the questions - I have used CA Gap Filling, Perfect Plastic, Tamiya white, and Mr. Surfacer 500. I tend to mix these up depending on the type of work I am doing.
Also, when you guys sand, say, Tamiya or Perfect Plastic, what do you use - straight sandpaper or pads/sticks? I am wondering of the "padding" of paper/sticks is hurting or helping, or if regular paper with fingertip application would be any better.
Also, how do I keel files clean? As Don said, they clog up incredibly quick but I do love using them for heavy work...