The best advice is honestly to practice, practice, practice. Try new techniques. Experiment. Find what works for you. Dive in with a cheap kit and see how things go.
As for your questions...
Painting smaller parts - I try to paint these in groups. So everything that needs to be interior green, or chromate yellow or whatever. Personally I prefer the look of airbrushed finishes to brushpainting, so I tend to airbrush everything I can then pick up details with the brush.
How much paint for 1/48 fighters? Depends on the airbrush. My Iwata sips paint, and I could easily stretch a big base color like neutral grey or olive drab (let's assume Tamiya 10ml bottles) out over probably two models, maybe three. My Paasche H, on the other hand, feels like it's halfway to a rattlecan by comparison, and could easily blow through an entire bottle on one kit. There's also going to be variance with notoriously poor coverage colors like yellow and white...but unless you're doing something like pre-war US schemes you probably won't be dealing with those in massive quantities.
Paint mixing? Depends on how much paint. For big coats on the main surfaces, I mix in glass jars. For smaller stuff, I'll mix in the cup if I'm using enamels. I've had bad experience with some acrylics where the pigments sink into the paint channel or under the needle before I can get everything mixed, so I use disposable 1 oz plastic dixie cups with acrylic.
I transfer paint with disposable pipette droppers. I use one for the paint, and one for thinner. Once I have the mix where I want it, I use the "paint" pipette to transfer the paint from the mixing jar to the airbrush cup. There's some waste, but it's minimal, and a heck of a lot less than spilling paint all over the place (kudos to those who can transfer with toothpicks and such...I tend to make a mess when I try that).
As for the trouble of spraying just one or two parts...yeah it's a pain. All I can say to that is 1) try to group them and 2) consider maybe building up two kits simultaneously that share some common elements. I'm building two WWII Soviet planes right now that use the same interior/gear bay, prop blade and underside colors.
On the Bench: 1/32 Trumpeter P-47 | 1/32 Hasegawa Bf 109G | 1/144 Eduard MiG-21MF x2
On Deck: 1/350 HMS Dreadnought
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