Over time I have heard folks mention they sprayed on a tack coat, then later layed down the finish wet coats. The dry "tack coat" they sprayed on was done from quite a distance, and it left a spotty dotted look, with bare surface still showing between the paint dots. They felt that gave the final finish coats some "teeth" or "bite" for adhesion.
Those paint dots from the first coat makes for a rough surface, such as you described orange peel. If your first coats are being applied with that dotted appearance, that might well be the cause of the rough finish.
One or two light coats at the start is good, but they must be smooth and give full coverage. And the term tack coat, does not mean to spray on a dry dotted layer. I think it just means light and smooth finishes, wet enough for good surfaces that accept further applications, to arrive at the desired smooth surface for final finish.
Your thinning ratio sounds about right, but depending on the project I might thin anywhere from 1 part thinner to 2 parts paint, (1:2) or even as much as 1:1, when using enamels. Good luck getting it sorted.
Patrick