As Bish indicated, the (probably very frustrating) truth is that it's almost entirely a matter of practicing with whatever combination of equipment and paint you're using. There really aren't any 'magic' answers.
That having been said...if you give a few details of the AB rig and paints you're using, then those with experience in the same tools might be able to give some specific hints or tips. Every airbrush has its own strengths and shortcomings...as well as 'just the right touch' needed to get the best out of it...so the advice I could give you for my brush and compressor setup might be useless with what you're using.
In general, learning to thin your paint to the proper consistency, and how much pressure is just enough (to avoid 'dusting' of paint drying before it hits your surface, without causing spatter at the other extreme) are the keys to a good mottle. You're already onto the 'final' secret -- a thin overspray to even everything out, afterwards.
The only other 'secret' I'll throw in is one I've picked up over the years for Luftwaffe a/c in particular: even if your mottle is technically just a single color...use a few different shades of that color, slightly lightened and darkened, while spraying. Maybe it's down to too many decades of looking at those b&w original photos, but it seems to really add to the 'in-the-field' look of those mottled camouflage schemes.
Good luck.