I usually use Humbrol Decalfix (other brands will do though) to really make the decal 'one' with the paint. This allows the rivets/panel lines underneath to show through. Then a light sanding, (I use micromesh, a very fine type of wet ' n' dry)
This just takes off the top surface and maybe a bit of the underlying detail pops through, don't overdo it though! After that, a light coat of matt or semigloss acrylic varnish to protect things. Don't forget, the decals that you put on, in real life are paint, and, as on the rest of your model, it chips and wears. If you can't get very fine rubbing down paper, try a pencil eraser (lightly) or maybe even toothpaste, it's abrasive and washes off with water ( it also polishes canopies!) Good Luck