Lowering expectations is a difficult thing to do, Armor, particularly if you haunt places like this, where most of the participants have been regularly building models for decades. It can be very easy to look at the photos or watch the videos people post all over the web and be deceived into believing that it all comes easy. You see it all the time here.
Some of us give stock to the belief that all of the answers to the challenges are found in the aftermarket and all of those talented builders on the web make it all seem so easy. Why, you just need this kit, those parts, and a special line of paints and effects to build just like a Spanish master, right?
The hard truth is that this hobby requires skill packages that are only learned the hard way - by actual hands-on work. Experience is never necessarily a kind teacher, but she is the most effective teacher of all. The paradox is that the grander the vision, the more essential she becomes in achieving the goal.
It's easy to bin a project when something goes wrong and you feel frustrated, but you learn so much more when you begin to solve problems and work past them. Like any skill set, it requires practice to improve and progress. Resigning a half-complete project to the shelf of doom is a bit of a missed opportunity to pay your dues, isn't it?
Even if they wind up packed with fireworks for a Fourth of July the neighbor kids will be talking about for years, the models give you lessons along the way. Just go for it - build it, paint it, weather it, everything you've ever wanted to try; but just do every step with purpose. Try everything out - every technique where you believe the hours in front of YouTube or reading here will get the results you want, safe in the notion that you can screw it up six ways from Sunday anywhere along the way, safe in the knowledge that no one is judging you and the fireworks show is going to be memorable. The work served a purpose and you gained something you can't buy in the aftermarket or learn from YouTube - experience.
Like HST warned, "You buy the ticket, you take the ride." Once you break open the shrink wrap on the next project, drop your expectations and go where the trip takes you, no questions asked, to its conclusion. You'll find some nugget of wisdom out there in Bat Country, but you have to reach the end to know the difference.