Lack of gratitude?

You are not expecting too much. The modelers you have assisted are totally wrong for not replying to you. This has happened to me and I know how you feel. I like to help fellow modelers but I wonder if it is worth it when they cannot even take the time to acknowledge the help and say thank you. 

I concur, you are certainly not expecting too much!

Of course you should expect at least a thankyou.  The same thing has happened to me.  It is possible that by accident I may have done the same to others in the past because I forgot due to everyday things that go on at work and the situation at home that I go through.  It could also be just plain forgetfullness at my age.  It could also be in many cases that people are just not taught politebehavior, manners and the like theae days.  Either way I keep trying to help.

whether you do or not, you will have to decide.  Some will reply, some won't.

I don't think that you are expecting too much either, but my one experience in sending a fellow FSM modeler something they needed was the exact opposite...

This is why online stores charge shipping and handling. SOMEBODY has to go and get the bits and pieces of the order, pack it and fill out shipping forms. This takes time, and to a store that takes money.

You certainly deserve gratitude for your actions.

I don't think you are asking too much at all.

Most of the time I get an e-mail or a post on the site telling me thay received the item.  I remember once I sent some decals to someone in England.  After several weeks I sent him an e-mail asking if he got them.  Eventually I ended up sending several e-mails.  Then one day I got a reply saying yes he got them so stop bothering him with constant e-mails and to leave him alone.  Months later he needed another OOP decals which I just happen to have and did not plan on using.  I still have them.

Sadly, there are far too many people in the world without common courtesy. While you should not necessarily be expecting a "thank you", it is only right for the recipient to do so. IF they refuse to be civilized human beings, don't deal with them in the future, like Berny.

That is shocking.

In fact, I'm having a hard time understanding how that's possible.   Maybe these guys lost your email address? Maybe they didn't associate the package with the requests they'd sent out?   Maybe I'm just hoping for a rational reason....0 for 5 is really sad.    

Well on behalf of me - THANKS to all you folks who are willing to dig through stashes to find replacements for those broken or missing parts, torn decals, etc.    While, I haven't actually asked for anything yet,  I do know that there is a community with awesome people that are willing to go out of their way and lend a hand.  Guys like you totally rock.

Sorry about that, Bronto.. Thanks so much for doing a solid favor for another modeler...

(No, I ain't one of 'em, but the guy deserves some thanks anyway...)

I don't ask for compensation either, just that whoever I send stuff to pay it forward someday...

Respect the people that take the time to help others its not to much to ask.Ron

Bronto

That just sucks.  A simple thank you is the least someone should have done for you.

I've been fortunate. I've only sent items to people on the forum a couple of times. Each time, the recipient was both grateful and gracious.

Thanks for your willingness to help out your fellows, and I am sorry you have now scored an 'ace of azzh*les'.

Thanks for the support everyone.  I'll still help out others if I have what they need.  Just needed to vent - been out on the road too long I guess.

berny13

.  Months later he needed another OOP decals which I just happen to have and did not plan on using.  I still have them.

I would have let him know you had them, but you didnt want to bother him with your constant emails.

I so would have done that!

Last year I was a little down on my luck witn no stash and no job. A member on another forum,who is also a member here sent me 3 kits 1/2 way across the country at his own expense. I am for ever gratefull to him. just wish he lived closer so I could atleast by him a beer or something. I'm not gonna mention his name but he will know who I'm talking about. I don't understand people today with no courtesy,I was raised to say "thank you" etc....If I didn't I'd get a smack.Maybe thats what todays people need,lol.....

John

Don't let it bother you. It's not worth the effort. Courtesy and manners are concepts that many people today just ignore. It's like when someone holds a door open for me I always say thank you. But many times when I extend the courtesy, I just get a blank stare as they walk past. It use to really tick me off. Now I just blame it on their upbringing and thank God that I was raised to be respectful.

I feel like you do,just a few minutes to show some curtesy is not too much to ask.My pet peeve here on the forum also is that if you for help,advice,a tip,critiquing a build,or anything,just shooting a quick thank you reply isn't too much either.

Yes courtesy in the form of a thanks is not asking too much.

I sent all the ordinance out of a Edward kit to a fellow who builds more of the subject and was not happy with his kit parts. I had no intent on using the parts, anyways and he was very grateful and PMed me when they arrived. After the fact Edward released the same kit in a weekend edition without all the extras. Either way I was happy to help out.

Another fellow was down on his luck and was not asking for anything but I offered a kit to send out. After some thought I realized it would be cheaper & easier to order from Squadron & have them send direct to him. Without border duty fees it was. I added some resin up-grades, wheels & vacuum formed canopy to the order.

About a week later he PMed a very sincere thank you. He was grateful and vowed to 'pay it forward' one day when he was back on his feet. To make a nice mail delivery better it arrived the day before his birthday!

It was a good feeling to be able to help a fellow modeler out, it made my day knowing it did.

Karma is a cruel mistress! She'll come back and bite ya in the @ss every time...just takes awhile sometimes. The longer it takes, the worse the bite.

 I've sent out a lot of bits and pieces (and a few kits....a virtual beer is good enough!) Every single one said thank you and all but one notified me of the arrival. My first experience in recieving something was offered to me, without me even asking. How awesome is that?!!! It took all of 30 seconds to PM a simple thank you. The MERs look most excellent on my A-10! If I have parts to give, I offer em up, wether they were requested or not. Simple things go a long way!

 Thank you for reading my post!

I'd be disappointed too. I have received some items here and i make sure that send a thank you after I've received them. It's the least that I can do for the time and effort someone gave me.

Bronto, there is no question your good karma will help you in a long run.  It is funny you brought this up because few days ago I received a surprise from a buddy here in the forum...  DML StuG III Ausf F/8 kit because we had fun together in a GB a while ago.  Few months ago I sent few kits to another friend here in the forum to help him out.  So karma works in a mysterious way...

Now this buddy is going to get something from me shortly... revenge is sweet!

I also offer up any parts I have that are needed, and enjoy helping out others whenever I can.  All but two people I sent parts or kits to responded with thank yous, and offers of reimbursement. 

And like berny experienced, one of those two was looking for parts again some time later , and I too still have them here in my spares box.

This has happened to me a few times in the past. I agree with some of the other Modelers here:

Don't sweat it. Not worth your time, really.  Yea, it's a bit troubling when no one says thanks, but that's not the reason you sent it in the first place.

You sent it to help out, and it felt good to do something nice for someone, so end it right there.

Boy, I know what my Gram would have said if someone didn't say thank you.

"Where's your manners? In your back pocket?"

Instant Karma's gonna get you... 

Hey Bronto;

Please don't let those who are unappreciative dull that spirit of camaraderie you have demonstrated.

That is the most important thing.

I worked with a community group and we ran an event and with the funds we bought an in-house elevator for a family with a special needs child.

They saw that their house had appreciated in value significantly then put it up for sale and moved.

Sometimes it's hard not to feel like as though you've been taken.

You can't stop being that person you are because there are those who don't appreciate you.

There are many here who have given me their time to help me out with build problems, so there are many of us who appreciate what you have done. As HVH said, it's about paying it forward.

I hear ya Steve that has happened to me a few times also on this site.....Hey by the way where is my Dull Coat!

Thad

Yup Berny.  You were a real life saver on those sidewinders.  You saved me a fortune not having to pay for the weapons pack from Hasegawa for just a couple of missiles.   I don't think I forgot, but in case I did, I will say it again..  THAN YOU... 

Rich

berny13

Most of the time I get an e-mail or a post on the site telling me thay received the item.  I remember once I sent some decals to someone in England.  After several weeks I sent him an e-mail asking if he got them.  Eventually I ended up sending several e-mails.  Then one day I got a reply saying yes he got them so stop bothering him with constant e-mails and to leave him alone.  Months later he needed another OOP decals which I just happen to have and did not plan on using.  I still have them.

Manstein's revenge

Instant Karma's gonna get you... 

doing a good deed,,, and the feeling you get... will always out-weight the let down of the inconsiderate..

Very True.

p38jl

 

Manstein's revenge:

 

Instant Karma's gonna get you... 

 

 

 

doing a good deed,,, and the feeling you get... will always out-weight the let down of the inconsiderate..