You invite a modeller friend over, and you see him taking a bottle of paint.....what would you do?

mustang1989

 

 That girlfriend thread was one of the "better" ones. lol

 

Nathan T

Good grief...between this and all the I don't have a girlfriend/ pet threads Ive about had it...

 

modelmaker66

let it go. a $3.00 jar of paint? not really a deal breaker. Unless you like conflict and fighting, put away tour injured pride and show somw grace to this person. you don't know why he did it and looksing a friend for a jar of paint seems that you would be loosing much more than $3.00 in the long run.

 

Maybe the next time your hanging out with him, ask him that question. Pose it like this...

KAYSEE88: "Yeah, so, I got this friend that invited this guy over to his house and while they were in his workbench area, the guy took a bottle of paint. I know, right? It sucks....what would you do?"

Pause...

Good grief...between this and all the I don't have a girlfriend/ pet threads Ive about had it...

So... any updates whether you confronted him or not?

"Shoot the hostage."

Revenant

Go over his house and trash his builds...

 

haha

Several years ago on a site I used to visit, a member there found out a friend, fellow clubmember and also a user on that site, had been stealing one of a kind resin items from him and selling some of them off and keeping others for himself.

Some of the stuff was returned, don't recall how exactly he discovered the theft, but the thief was caught redhanded.

Bottom line is that some people just do not have the same sense of right and wrong as others.

Don't much care for labels. How about:

"Whats up with that?"

He's no friend, he's a thief and should be treated accordingly.

Go over his house and trash his builds...

BlackSheepTwoOneFour

 

modelmaker66

let it go. a $3.00 jar of paint? not really a deal breaker. Unless you like conflict and fighting, put away tour injured pride and show somw grace to this person. you don't know why he did it and looksing a friend for a jar of paint seems that you would be loosing much more than $3.00 in the long run.

 

 

 

 

Seriously? And you find it okay to steal from someone? I don't care if it cost $3 or $1. It's the principle of it all and the dishonesty and gall to steal from a friend. If it were me, that would have been the end of him being invited into my home period. 

 

Agreed sheep. I call that abuse of trust and lack of ethics. The $ amount has nothing to do with it but rather the act of stealing from a friend, no matter how small or insignificant. I too will leave it here. The OP can do what he wishes. All we can do is provide an insight into his concerns.

modelmaker66

let it go. a $3.00 jar of paint? not really a deal breaker. Unless you like conflict and fighting, put away tour injured pride and show somw grace to this person. you don't know why he did it and looksing a friend for a jar of paint seems that you would be loosing much more than $3.00 in the long run.

 

Seriously? And you find it okay to steal from someone? I don't care if it cost $3 or $1. It's the principle of it all and the dishonesty and gall to steal from a friend. If it were me, that would have been the end of him being invited into my home period. 

Sadly;

 I have found myself in the same boat .As the person left I told them ." When you get home and try the paint you picked up , let me know how you liked it " Then DO NOT invite this person back into your home !  Tanker - Builder

modelmaker66

let it go. a $3.00 jar of paint? not really a deal breaker. Unless you like conflict and fighting, put away tour injured pride and show somw grace to this person. you don't know why he did it and looksing a friend for a jar of paint seems that you would be loosing much more than $3.00 in the long run.

 

I'd confront him immediately about his behaviour.  If you let it go, he will justify, to himself, that what he did is okay because you did nothing about it at the time of the offence.  An honest person, when caught, will fess up.  If he denies taking the paint, your friend is a thief and a liar.  I won't invest my time with people like that.  And as other have said, he'd never set foot in my house again or ever hear the sound of my voice.

Ditto on saying something to him right away. I'd gladly give it to you IF you ask. If you don't, and I see it, the next thing you hear and feel will be the door hitting you in the a** on your way out. 

Jim  

modelmaker66

let it go. a $3.00 jar of paint? not really a deal breaker. Unless you like conflict and fighting, put away tour injured pride and show somw grace to this person. you don't know why he did it and looksing a friend for a jar of paint seems that you would be loosing much more than $3.00 in the long run.

 

Again if you got friends who steal from you,then their not worth having.Conflict fighting,no not me,just won't be with them anymore.

They could ask if they need it that badly.My only exception would be if they have some sort of psychological issue that I am aware of and they are working on.

It has nothing to do with pride or grace.why would you want to be with someone who steals from you.

Set a mouse trap or perhaps in your case, a rat trap.---Just kidding of course. Oops, it wasn't registering so I sent it again. (still good advice).

let it go. a $3.00 jar of paint? not really a deal breaker. Unless you like conflict and fighting, put away tour injured pride and show somw grace to this person. you don't know why he did it and looksing a friend for a jar of paint seems that you would be loosing much more than $3.00 in the long run.

Good Grief!! What kind of friends do you folks have? I've been modeling over 50 years and even though one friend was deparate enough that he needed to store his models at my place while he found a new apartment, noone has attempted to 'take' anything of mine. They know that if they needed something all they'd have to do is ask and esp. for something a minor as a bottle of paint I'd give it to them. In fact, I've had friends over to build models and have given a kit for one to build.

So basically, the whole premise of this scenario to me is illogical as it's a strawman argument. never happen.

I have found that you have to say something right away if you see something like that. A lot of times, not only do you rectify the situation, but you save the both of you a lot of awkwardness or heated moments later.

For example, "Hey, where you going with my paint?" said right then, as opposed to weeks down the line saying, "So, I saw you take my paint."  Just sets you up for ugliness. If he's truly your friend, calling him on it immediately isn't gonna ruffle feathers nearly as much.

Also, kleptomania is a real thing. Some people truly can't help themselves. A little understanding and grace might go a long way. I do agree, though, that if he comes in your house again, it would be wise to keep a sharper eye on things.

--Chris

Man you've gotta be kiddin' me!! I'm not going to call names or nothin' like that but I'd be careful of letting this dude back in your place. Sooner or later you'll meet a fellow modeler that's not dishonest. Odds are if he did it once, he'll do it again and maybe on a bigger scale if given half a chance. Separate the fact that he's a fellow modeler and what do you have? Someone who can't be trusted. Boil it down to plain ethics to see things clearly for what they are without your judgment being clouded by "a modeler with a common interest". Real friends won't steal from you no matter how small or inexpensive your belongings are.

tankboy51

  The cost of paint is totaly trvial to me.  Other modeler friends are very nice to have.  

 

You are missing the point here. That is not a friend but a thief. If he takes a small bottle of paint without asking, then ask yourself what else that belongs to you will stick to his fingers on his way out of your house?

Time to remove this low life from your friend list.

tankboy51

I would just help paint his or her kit, making sure it was the right color and type of paint.  The cost of paint is totaly trvial to me.  Other modeler friends are very nice to have.  Heck,  I even let them use my brushes a air brushes.  I have done it lots of times.

 

 

Yea, but someone who steals from you isn't your friend, even the smallest thing.I couldnt care less about the cost of the paint,it's just a low life move.It's just unacceptable conduct under any circumstances,unless he has admitted to psychological issues.

I probably wouldn't confront him,but he wouldn't step foot in my house again.

I would just help paint his or her kit, making sure it was the right color and type of paint.  The cost of paint is totaly trvial to me.  Other modeler friends are very nice to have.  Heck,  I even let them use my brushes a air brushes.  I have done it lots of times.

Be careful who you allow into your home.