what would your wife say????

It's called seperate bamk accounts. She has her money and I gots mine. I tried the joint money thing before. It causes sooooo much pain. As long as you are saving your 10-15%, the house is being paid for, and the kids have food, my wife couldn't care less what arrives at the front door.

My

My wife and I sorted this one a couple of years back, by agreeing to a monthly hobby budget, she gets £50, about $90, and I get the same. We each discuss what we are looking to buy each month, and enjoy sharing the anticipation of either a trip out to the LHS, or awaiting the post man.

There are no arguments, the bills get paid, and there is food on the table! She is also supportive of my modelling, just as I am of her scrapbooking. Sickening I know, but I count myself a lucky man, especially considering she is also a 6 foot brunette

Karl

Echo is it great to have a wife like that?Razor I have to disagree on that,my 1st wife got po'ed at the sight of a model.You did not talk about it around her unless if you wanted to be de_all and rediculed for even thinking of it.Digger

simple: buy 1 small easy to build kit [eg tamiya] and your fav kit, give her the other kit and some tools and tell her to have a good time while you build away like there is no tomorrow

I agree with echo. You can avoid a lot of crap if you simply talk things out before hand. Most wives are pretty supportive provided the money is available and she's getting her fair share. Like others have said, they'd rather have you in the basement sniffing glue than out in the bars doing who knows what.

Digger and Tho9900,

Are our wives related? Mine would be the exact same way. She is nothing but supportive. Things are kind of tight right now financially so she's knows I would pass up these "Holy Grails" of the modeling world. I would buy one or some of them at a later date after I've discussed purchasing them with her out of respect for her. I know good and well that she would say "yes" to my purchasing them but it's the mere fact that I talked to her about this not-to-small purchase that would make her almost FORCE me to go out and get the kits. We all sacrifice when we have to and we all tend to splurge when we find ourselves blessed. It's all about give and take and wanting the other person to be happy.

It's like this in my house because, like Thad said, I have the incredible inability to lie also! LOL!

Eric

I have about five place I keep my Kits , That way if she notice's something has changed you can tell her you just got it from one of the other piles..... It was at the bottom of the pile you just have not seen this kit in a while...... Then she rolls her eyes and says sure it was. I never can keep a straight face when Iie to her.

Thad

My better half would just shake her head, think for a minute and then say " Well at least I know where you will be ( at the bench sniffing glue and paint fumes) and where you won't be ( Out at the bars or running around out on the town) but she will be giving me the look of. OK buddy you got your toys now I am gonna get mine.( I know that look quite well).
Most of the time when I get that look it ends up costing me 3 times as much as I spent. [:0]

Paul

spousal unit - thats a good one !

.....in moderation, my spousal unit is quite sympathetic......
with lolok's list, my spousal unit's bloodied rolling pin would bare witness to an endall event.....

Can you say, "Restraining Order"?


Gip Winecoff

This is good reading. I never had a kit collection till I got divorced. LOL its amaizing how quickly I replaced the empty closet which used to house her clothes with kits. Perhaps this is wrong, but I consider it a good trade. LMAO

Now days, the most I would probably get is a raised eyebrow. Twenty or so years ago I would have caught absolute hell if I had spent that eras equivalent money on models. We were living in a rented trailer, raising two boys and having a very hard time making ends meet. Now I have a good job with the state and she works as the Human Resources manager for a local manufacturing plant. The boys are gone, raising their own families and we have our own house (Ok, Ok, We and the mortgage company have our own house). About the only thing that would really raise her ire would be if I dipped into the money that we set aside from each paycheck for house repairs and improvements (those things they don't tell you about when talking about the joys of owning your own home). Besides, she knows I'm not about to pay that amount of money for a model (Unless I can get it for 50% or more off list). And I know how much she spends on her garden. And the raised eyebrown would be more likely because she can't understand how I could want another model considering the size of my stash.

QUOTE: Originally posted by LemonJello She wouldn't say anything, just give me that look that fairly screams "And how much did that little toy set us back?" Then, she'd roll her eyes and sigh like I'd just told her the sky was purple.

Lemonjello - I think we're married to the same woman. [:0]

im still waiting to see what my moms reaction will be when i bring home the big duece, 1/8 '32 Ford. hopefully Hobby Lobby will go half-off soon so ill only have to shell out $45 for it.............
Jon

QUOTE: Originally posted by diggeraone Mike are you sure just the couch or would half of your hide be gone?

You are right Digger, so let me rephrase that.
I would be sleeping on the couch, in the garage, with half my hide gone and no rearend left to speak of. [:0]

Mike

my wife would first try to figure out what my new job was. because the current one wont allow such purchases. then she would ask me if she could open them.


joe

Tigerman,if shoes is all you have to put up with,I would build a closet for her to put them in and then go out and buy the Nimitzs.Mike are you sure just the couch or would half of your hide be gone.I can say this about my wife over my ex-wife:I love my wife the ex well she needs help.My wife loves to do hobbys as does most poeple from Europe. She does beading,sewing,cooking,gaming,fishing and modeling.She does build a few models to.Digger
P.S.When God blessed me,He blessed me with a good woman.

You have an understanding wife Digger.

Mine would say nothing. I mean how could she. Every week it seems she comes home with another pair of shoes she doesn't need.

If I brought home all of that I would be sleeping on the couch for months.

Mike

i think it would be 'suspicious' to be the least with a 1/32 flanker:

what's that big box with a plane
it's a gift box

QUOTE: Originally posted by diggeraone As of right now my wife knows that I would not buy them do to the lack of money,but if we had the money and I mentioned them she would buy them.Then she would ask when I would have them done.She would have room made up and cleared in the living room so that when it was done it would be displaied so eveyone could see.What can I say,my wife likes me to build these things and she thinks it is very cool.Digger

that's cool digger... my wife does some of the same... she want''s me to mount shelves on the wall in my hobby room for the finished models (I know me, I'd just stack more kits on them haha) and she'll just out of the blue look over at the coffee table and say "you could put that plane you are working on right there!"

it's nice to have support!

As of right now my wife knows that I would not buy them do to the lack of money,but if we had the money and I mentioned them she would buy them.Then she would ask when I would have them done.She would have room made up and cleared in the living room so that when it was done it would be displaied so eveyone could see.What can I say,my wife likes me to build these things and she thinks it is very cool.Digger

As long as I bring a model for her too, she'll be OK with it...

My wife has grown immune to my hobby addiction. When I bring home yet another kit, she only scowls, gave up on lecturing.

Regards, Rick

interesting topic.... just this last weekend I went to Hobby Lobby to get some paints... I noticed the Hobby Craft Spitfire Mk Vb (1/24) was marked down to $40.00 from $120.00... Made the mistake of casually mentioning this to my wife in the parking lot... after her 15 minute tirade about how they would be gone if I didn't get it now... and down the line I would end up spending 120.00 because I wanted it so bad etc.. etc.. etc..

Needless to say I caved in... (I really wanted to see if they would mark it down to 20.00... no one seems interested in them it seems...)

Maybe if you found a good price on what ya want then use that strategy... (if I dont get it now the prices will go back up and I will end up getting it later for the higher price, even as a present etc..)

What has worked on my wife as well is mentioning I found what I was going to get her for Xmas... as we are nearing a hobby shop... she then asks me what *I* want.. I say a model... *SHE* says well you need to show me which one... we turn into the hobby store, I show her which one... she says "well you might as well get it now because I only see one of them and they might not have it closer to Xmas, and I am not driving out here in Christmas traffic and not find it, because I wouldn't know what else to pick out for you" if I am feeling lucky I tell her about another one that would be my second choice if the first is not there and show it to her... again, "well get it now because it might not be here for Christmas... "

I am thinking of going for 3 today... never made it that far yet... I'm so glad my wife hates traffic!!!

My wife can't say too much. Yesterday she and the daughters went shopping for Christmas. She wore the strip off of the credit cards and when she showed me the receipts, I didn't say anything. I was too busy looking at a new model I just bought.

my mother would call the police to see which bank got robbed or which little old lady got mugged

She wouldn't say anything, just give me that look that fairly screams "And how much did that little toy set us back?" Then, she'd roll her eyes and sigh like I'd just told her the sky was purple. Sometimes, no words are needed. LOL.