Tanker-Builder
I hope? I want to ask a question.
I do hope this is not too personal. Did you get brought up Traditionally or Western? The reason I ask-I was brought up in the dual households of old country Sicilian -Americans and Old country Austrian-Americans! Definitely in the Old manner only!
Asians tend to assimulate very well in the US. My parents are from Indonesia and are of Dutch-Indonesian descent, back when it was a Dutch colony. They we relocated to Holland when Indonesia became independant and met on the boat to Holland.
Half a dozen years later, they married and moved to the US. That's where my siblings and I were born.
My parents spoke Dutch in the household, but we answered in English. Eventually, Dutch vanished and only English was spoken.
Originally, everything we ate was served on a bed of rice. We had rice and meat everyday. The "meat" could be any variety of meat (beef, pork, chicken, hamburg, fish), cooked like traditional stir fry with peppers, onions, etc. My mom made my dad even spicier sauce called "heet" in Dutch (pronounced "hate" in English) and means a very spicy sauce.
My dad's head was a ball of sweat during dinner. I remember my mom used to eat with her right hand when we were kids. Everything we ate was spicy.
But our family eventually Americanized. Probably by the time my older sister got to junior high school, were were eating more traditional US meals. My mom worked in the school cafeteria and probably learned many American dishes there.
When I got to college on Long Island, a lot of New Yorkers used to comment that I didn't sound right. I spoke better English with my New England accent and they expected me to sound like I just came out of China Town in NYC.
My family does fall into a few Asian stereotypes; my brother and I got degrees in finance, my daughter got a degree in actuarial math, my son a masters in computer engineering and working on an MBA too. My sister was a microbiologist before married and stayed at home. Her oldest son is a neurosurgeon.
Since I also raised three rural Kentucky stepchildren, there was a definite distinction between my wife's first three children and her last three kids (my biological children) as far as school and grades go. My wife used to defend her older children by saying "Cs are good grades" when I tried to talk to them about their school work.
My three were/are 4.0 GPA students. When the youngest (soon to be a senior in high school) had a 92 in one class (B+), my wife said, "What's up with this?"
I automatically said, "Cs are good grades" and she promptly told me to shut up. He did get a 4.0 that year as well.