The wife and modeling

peglegrc wrote:

Take it easy ladies or we'll take up hang gliding! ha,ha...True!! I think they would like it better if we did take up hang gliding...It would put a smile on their face as they collected the life insurance check and a little voice inside their head would say: I told you so!...

yeah but the I told you so (women are always right and always have to have the last word) is of more importance to them then the check

and it sure beats collecting shoes

My wife never really complained about my modeling purchases, mostly because I exercised some discretion.  A few months ago I opened up a separate checking account that I keep funded via ebay auctions, gift money, odd jobs etc.  Now I have an independent source of funds that I can spend anyway I see fit and the wife is unreservedly happy.

And as bgrigg pointed out, it's still a darn sight cheaper than my golf habit.

aussie1 wrote:

Well the way I see it, modelling wives have it good!! We're home all the time, it's a safe hobby, we can share it with our kids. Take it easy ladies or we'll take up hang gliding!

Funny - my other hobby is rock climbing.  I think my wife likes my modeling hobby better.  It's cheaper, I'm home more, and she's not worried about me hurting myself too much while modeling (although there have been a few super glue and x-acto accidents in the past).

Bruce

 

Super glue can do a pretty good job of suturing those X-acto cuts!

Even with the hazards of modeling, it's a darn sight better to go "Ooops, cut myself" then it is to go "Ooops"














Splat!!

Yup - it sure is.

 

It's also pretty good at pulling fiberglass splinters out.

Bgrigg wrote:

Super glue can do a pretty good job of suturing those X-acto cuts! Even with the hazards of modeling, it's a darn sight better to go "Ooops, cut myself" then it is to go "Ooops"   Splat!!

 

i have been using superglue and ductape for injuries for over 20 yrs

but enough said

Spelunko wrote:

And it came, How much does all of that cost?

A hell of lot cheaper than a bass boat!  Really, model building is pretty economical hobby, unless you have a stash of 300 unbuilt kits!

There has been mention of hiding the hobby expenses from the wife, friends asking if he has any bad habits, baby on the way how can I model (congrats Mortar ), along with many other obstacles regarding our other half and modeling.

I'd like to say, my wife encourages me in the return to modeling endeavors.

When we first got together I was into all kinds of things -
Harley's, bar hopping (tittie bars), and hanging out with... well getting into trouble,
Muscle cars, racing at local tracks, heavy drinking... getting into trouble,
Cruising the beaches with the guys, street racing, ... getting into trouble,
Working in the garage until wee hours of the morning, ... getting into trouble,
Fishing - both fresh and salt water.
Breeding and raising fresh water tropical fish, I had 17 tanks in a small 3 bedroom apt.
Sometimes I'd zomby out in front of the boob tube and watch racing all day long.
Now she doesn't mind watching racing as long as I'm not in it and it's only for awhile on TV.

Child one came along! She passed away a few days later. I went off the deep end and drank & rode heavy for awhile. Child two comes along, hurray she makes it home. That meant a cut into my fun money, so I started working longer hours. I was home less, partying less and still didn't have money for "my" fun stuff. The race car went, bar hopping slowed down to just Friday nights. Humm, she's upset still... so I take a second job for more income. Child three comes along... AHHHH now what? Muscle car goes and we get a family vehicle. The bike goes as doctor bills are pilling up (lost medical insurance). No more going out partying, once and awhile I'd stop at a friends and have a few beers and play darts in his garage and BS for a few hours. Fishing... what's that? Fish tanks get cut down to two small ones. Watching racing on TV? Nope traded that in for Barney. Ok, so now I'm working tons of hours and I'm never home except to sleep. We have enough money but wifey still isn't happy. She wants me to spend time with the family instead of always working. So I land myself a decent job that can handle all of our finances and then some. She was happy for awhile but really wanted to get back out and work herself. So I start my own business and mama gets a job. I'm now doing the Mr. Mom thing. Whenever the kids get hurt or needs to talk, they came to me instead of mama. Wifey quits her job and stays home again. I'm trying to make a go of it with my business (at home) so I start working long hours to meet deadlines. Kids go off to school and I find out that it's getting rough. They have metal detectors and drug deals going on. Down the street from our neighborhood we started hearing gun shots from drug deals going bad or irate boy friends. Enough of this life style, we move to NH from CT. My ulcer clears up, but I'm still unhappy and the wife see's it. I go back to working as a mechanic eventually and get hurt. Now I'm not the same guy I used to be and never will be. Doctor advises that I take up a hobby or two, do something not too strenuous for exercise.

So I'm back to modeling with my sons encouragement and my wife finally got me a canoe. She isn't into fishing, but she goes out with me once and awhile just to spend time with me. She picks models up for me when she goes shopping. She's pushing me to start a hobby shop business while I'm taking college courses again. We're having a bit of troubles getting the hobby shop business started, but we'll work through it I hope.

A very important lesson I've learned along the way, talk things over with your other half. Don't hide anything from each other. Spend quality time with each other. Hobbies take a back seat to a working and lasting relationship. Once the bond and camaraderie is there, everything else will fall into place. It's not what type of hobby you do (though it might help) that needs to be dicussed with our other half. It's the fact that we want or need something that we enjoy doing and helps us relax. There's too much crap going on in the world and our lives everyday. So if building models and/or watching fish swim in a tank helps lower your blood pressure, good for you. And yes, it's been medically proven that watching fish in a tank helps lower blood pressure.

Sorry for the essay! 

But I needed to vent and say thanks to my wife for always being in my corner.

"Thanks honey for being so understanding and putting up with me."

Gee, I hope if she reads this it doesn't mean I have to have sex again?

"But honey, we did it just last month... " 

Thanks for sharing, Jim.  If that doesn't put an end to this discussion, I don't know what will.  You can't argue with a story like that.  You may have saved some folks years of lesson learning.  Thanks, Jim.

Your welcome...

Gee, I didn't mean to put an end to the discussion 

I just thought sharing some of my trials and tribulations might shed some light on the subject and help others.

Thanks for reading and not falling asleep. 

I hope my life story did help someone. 

Oh, oh... I hear her calling from the other room!

She must have read my post... 

I'm sorry.  Discussion really isn't the word I wanted to use.  I'm sure people might start discussing there own person experience like you did, but I think the wisdom you shared might make some people take a look at their home situation and whether or not they can improve it.

Sorry, I misunderstood... 

One can always improve on some thing, even if it's just a little thing here or there.

Oh wait... I'm not suggesting that people here need to improve, just people and things in general.

Where there's a will there's a way. 

peglegrc wrote:

I'm so happy to be a single Guy!.... the two more Badger 200SG & 200 NG Airbrushes I bought my self for Fathers Day!!.. I have three kitty's and they never say anything about how much or why?..

Ya ......But I would much rather hear...." Here's your Fathers Day pressent daddy..I love you."....or "Are you gonna work on your models now daddy, can I watch?" .....or " when I get bigger I'm going to build models just like you, maybe we can build them together!"...I prefer that to MEEEOOOOOOOW!

Zip

Exactly!

I enjoy the kid sitting down and painting one of her snaptight models, its a lot more fun than cat hair, of course, the cat can be fun to, but I think the kid gets more excited when I get a model done than any of the animals I have... well, the guinea pigs get pretty excited when I do a fly by on thier cage