In one of Polish comedies, there was a talk like this:
"-What do you mean "mistake" ? My wife's first name was "mistake" !
I know it already that second wives are much better than first ones (one of my friends always says about his one-and-only wife - "She is my FIRST wife"). The solution of your problem can be like this: The man should have his own inteterst or hobby - if not he could spend his money for beverages or tobacco - so what do you (our ladies) prefer ? ;o))) Aleksander