First date tomorrow, need some help from fellow modelers

First date, eh? Congrats.

I'd say do more question asking than talking about yourself. I did that on a blind date with a beautiful little lady back in November of '85.

August 12th was our 19th wedding anniversary.

Seriously though, most people enjoy the company of someone who is interested in them. Don't NOT talk about your stuff, but put them first.

  You should let her do the most the talking if you can. Try not to talk about model building to much. Believe it or not, not to many chicks are into model building! Most could care less about your latest build or how many kits you have in your closet. They may even feel its kind of nerdy. So focus on her. Chicks love the attention. Just ask my wife, who I let do all the talking 20 years ago.

   Good Luck!

Some good advice already given. Best bet is to keep your mouth closed and your ears open.

Actually, that's pretty good advice ALL OF THE TIME!

And if she does get around to asking about you, don't say you build models, say you craft scale reproductions.

Yeah, Ease her into your interests..........watch what she eats so you don't waste modeling cash....then buy her an extra treat that you can afford.........work the word 'fuselage' into the conversation.

'Nuff Said!' 

Yeah really--do NOT talk about model building---especially Gundam kits!!

Little plastic mechanized robots? She'll be laughing to her girlfriends about that for months after she deletes you from her cell phone!

In all seriousness, I wouldn't even talk about model building AT ALL. Let that be something she discovers over time. Something that is an "extra" part of who you are and what you are; not something you bring up on the first date!

Don't ever try to "impress" a girl on a first date. Girls appreciate good conversation, and brains, --but even more so, they enjoy good listeners! Ask questions, and be attentive to her answers, and reciprocate on them.

Unless you run into one of those dreaded "Silent Betty's", where you get stuckwith one-word answers from her, then just make the conversation light, and mostof all, humorous! If you canget a girl genuinely laughing, the rest of the evening is cake!

namrednef wrote:

Yeah, Ease her into your interests..........watch what she eats so you don't waste modeling cash....then buy her an extra treat that you can afford.........work the word 'fuselage' into the conversation. 'Nuff Said!'

ROFL! Just don't use comparisons that her "fuselage" resembles something unflattering...she might know what a C-5A or C-17 is...stay with the safe comparisons...like a Super Connie...

Disconnect the motor driven mouth...listen, look her in the eye, smile. Relax and keep breathing! Be yourself, not someone else...leave the ego at home in the sock drawer. 

You're a Historian who specializes in Scale Replication.

I remember mine as if it were only yesterday! Scared to death, and was so shy that I thought I'd have a heart attack!

* most people like music, so that's often a good direction

* let her make most all the first moves till you learn her moves

* can you dance? Better learn real fast if you can't, but keep it very simple

* food? once again keep it very simple and very laid back

* and lastly don't talk about other people

you'll be fine

gary

I cannot emphasize enough the importance of just "being yourself", because down the road, if it goes that far, it will be a lot easier to be that person than remembering who you were trying to be.

Definitely minimize talking about models.  Figure painting might be okay, but unless you have like piles and piles of boxes stashed clearly in sight in your room, don't even bring it up deliberately during the first several dates.  New movies and TV shows and something she can relate to are much better common topics.  Your goal is to generate conversations, getting her to talk. 

Now if she does anything artsy for her pasttime activities, like painting or graphics design, painting figures could be acceptable if they are large sculpts and nothing erotic/anime.  1/35 figures to them are as good as toy soldiers...  And even if she likes japanese animation or manga, gundam is unacceptable!

HawkeyeHobbies wrote:

ROFL! Just don't use comparisons that her "fuselage" resembles something unflattering...she might know what a C-5A or C-17 is...stay with the safe comparisons...like a Super Connie...

this fuselage comparision is one of the best i heard recently.

thanks for advices ppl, will report back later

The top ten things for a modeler not to say on a first date

1. I really dig models. (She hears "model" she sees Christie Brinkley.)

2. I'm big into modeling. (When was the last time you were on a fashion runway?)

3. I have a great stash. (She'll be on the phone to the police, "He got weed!")

4. Wanna see my plasic models? (see #1 and she'll be running out the door.)

5. I took this model home, cut it open and really filled it with stuff, now it's in a place of honor on my shelf. (You'll be trying to explain to the paramedics and police why she's out cold on the floor.)

6. I couldn't get anywhere with my last model and smashed it against the wall.. (Can you spell restraining order?)

7. Last night I cut two models apart and combined the parts to make something completely different. (See #5 and 6)

8. I like handling small things until they become something much bigger. (Dad's coming for you. He's got a shotgun. He ain't happy.)

9. By the time I leave my desk, I usually have sticky fingers. (See #8)

10. I finished off a model just before I got here. (See #7)

 Sound advice from all. Depending on yer motives gives you an idea of which to follow. Me I like to avoid all the changing of radio stations and inevitable drama that women bring into our lives. So I say skip dinner and take her to a hobby store! Use the cash you would spend on her for some killer kit then start it while totally ignoring her for most of the night.

Probably won't get you much love but you will be the better man for it. I say this because I followed advice as given above once. Ended up married, been that way for over 20 years to this same girl. ( Sounds bad but girls reinvent themselves almost monthly so it's like having a harreem! Even sticking with just one) Just had a nice romantic dinner with me lady and she comes home and sits on my model I'm working on.

Morale of the story stay single ! Your plastic models will always appreciate you and won't use all your gas.

ajlafleche wrote:

The top ten things for a modeler not to say on a first date 1. I really dig models. (She hears "model" she sees Christie Brinkley.) 2. I'm big into modeling. (When was the last time you were on a fashion runway?) 3. I have a great stash. (She'll be on the phone to the police, "He got weed!") 4. Wanna see my plasic models? (see #1 and she'll be running out the door.) 5. I took this model home, cut it open and really filled it with stuff, now it's in a place of honor on my shelf. (You'll be trying to explain to the paramedics and police why she's out cold on the floor.) 6. I couldn't get anywhere with my last model and smashed it against the wall.. (Can you spell restraining order?) 7. Last night I cut two models apart and combined the parts to make something completely different. (See #5 and 6) 8. I like handling small things until they become something much bigger. (Dad's coming for you. He's got a shotgun. He ain't happy.) 9. By the time I leave my desk, I usually have sticky fingers. (See #8) 10. I finished off a model just before I got here. (See #7)

Hope i dont start thinking of your top ten then start cracking up during the dinner. she's gonna think what the heck i am laughing at...

Thanks all, off to Omaha beach on my D-day now

I realize he's on the left coast......but I hope he's not home yet! 

While probably too late now, it's best not to think of your date as an invasion force into hostile territory.  Last thing you want to do is go in with guns a-blazin'.  Pretend to be the UN and go for diplomacy (except be useful, unlike the UN).

Try not to mention geeky hobbies until you've passed the fourth or fifth date.  By then, you  can be pretty sure she digs you for you.  Before then, if you've got less dorky hobbies, like painting or photography, mention those.  Chicks tend to dig guys with an "emotional" side and for some reason, they associate art with emotion.

Just ask her tons of questions about herself, even if you really couldn't care less.  Most guys don't care that their date's mother's, third cousin's, dog has diarrhea, but she'll love that you're taking an interest in her.  The entire point of a first date is to get a second date and the only way to get that to happen is to take an interest in her.  Who knows, maybe after 3 or 4 dates, you may actually be interested in her mother's, third cousin's, dog's bowel movements.

-Fred

I am back,

Ok she is actually my family friend's friend's sister... What they told me about her and the one time i met her was 180deg awa. My friend told me she is quiet and doesnt talk much, but at the end she overwhelmed me with all she talked about like herself and her friends etc...

So I probably had a blank look on my face...

At least one thing I found out is that she likes doing make ups and do photography, has an airbrush that she hates to clean, and she recently picked up some photoshop and zbrush drawing... 

But I just don't feel I would like her much, at least not right now...

sfcmac wrote:

maybe you can just use her for her airbrush you gigalo! Glad you survived intact!

Haha, I wish, I really don't think her airbrush is better mine!

Rob Gronovius wrote:

Ditto, talk about their stuff, not yours. Steer clear of politics and religion.

... unless, of course, that's what you have in common. I met my wife in a college course that we were taking together. When we were going around and introducing ourselves in the first class, she mentioned that she wanted to go to seminary -- something that I had considered too. So after class, I asked her about her plans. We continued to talk after class for a month or so, and started dating toward the end of the semester. We've been married six years now.

So, I guess my advice is to ask her about herself (as others have said) and talk about the things you have in common. Also, BE SURE TO COMPLIMENT HER!!! If so looks pretty, tell her so. If you had a good time, tell her that at the end of the date. If you notice something nice that she does, make a note and say something about it later. Everyone likes compliments and my philosophy is that if I can say something nice to somebody, I will. 

Good luck! 

Lufbery wrote:

Rob Gronovius wrote: Ditto, talk about their stuff, not yours. Steer clear of politics and religion. ... unless, of course, that's what you have in common. I met my wife in a college course that we were taking together. When we were going around and introducing ourselves in the first class, she mentioned that she wanted to go to seminary -- something that I had considered too. So after class, I asked her about her plans. We continued to talk after class for a month or so, and started dating toward the end of the semester. We've been married six years now. So, I guess my advice is to ask her about herself (as others have said) and talk about the things you have in common. Also, BE SURE TO COMPLIMENT HER!!! If so looks pretty, tell her so. If you had a good time, tell her that at the end of the date. If you notice something nice that she does, make a note and say something about it later. Everyone likes compliments and my philosophy is that if I can say something nice to somebody, I will.  Good luck!

Will take some practices to do that, thx for advice

angguuss wrote:

But I just don't feel I would like her much, at least not right now...

angguuss wrote:

But I just don't feel I would like her much, at least not right now...

Well, if there are no sparks, that's okay. I went out with several girls I thought I would like as I got to know them better. One, half way through the first adte, I realized I had absolutely nothing in common with and found I just didn't care to see her again. Another, I had known longer and thought well of as a person but there was no spark there. It's okay to go out once and walk away.

the doog wrote:

angguuss wrote: But I just don't feel I would like her much, at least not right now... SO?...what's she look like?!

 Just typical asian girl, nothing too special nice stocking i remember