Stikpusher,
You explained that very well!
For my part, I grew up hearing stories from my mother's father, who fought with the U.S. 80th Infantry Division (317th Regiment, M Company -- for those who are curious). He and my grandmother loved traveling to Europe after the war all the way until the late '80s and held Germans in very high regard.
They're both still alive, thankfully. They pretty much viewed the Germans, even the ones who fought against my grandfather, as regular people caught up in very bad circumstances. The people responsible for the atrocities were punished for their crimes and the whole country suffered as well. Coming from what is now Slovakia, they had/have far more distrust and anger toward the Soviets/Russians.
My father's father was in the Navy in the Pacific. He passed away in '96, and I'm still working on getting more information about the units he served in. He was in two administrative positions: one on Guam, and then on Tinnian. He was near the airfields with the B-29s that dropped the atomic bombs, but didn't know anything about it at the time.
To the day he died, he held an extreme, negative prejudice against the Japanese. Being straffed and shot at by snipers (and shooting back on occasion) helped form his attitude, but I suspect the racism at the time and the very different cultures between our two nations played a large part.
I believe that the Japanese atrocities deserve a lot more attention, especially from the Japanese government. Germany, as a nation, has done a lot to come to terms with its actions during WWII, while Japan has been largely silent. There are strong cultural reasons for the ways the two nations have dealt with the war, but I think the Japanese actions are "flying under the radar" of most people in my generation because Germany's actions are far better publicized.
I studied German in high school and college, and now study a Japanese martial art. I'm a student of both cultures and admire a lot about both.
Just some thoughts,