Mikey:
I'm a little farther down the road than yourself,
so I don't joke about relatives dying, because they do, and often.
If this clarifies things as you brought religion up: hey, this is not about religion,
this is not about politics, it is simply about service to the ones in your family.
But to put us back on your original track, I was only talking about our service to family.
I was talking about the things we do to comfort and help
in very real ways, not just with "kind wishes", but to really aid the people
in our families whom have suffered strife. Mike, as you know by now,
it is not easy. It takes real work, and it deprives us of hobby time, and
all kinds of other time.
These realities can rob us of the time we enjoy building kits, walking in the park, cutting the lawn,
and sharing the fruits of our labours with others.
There was a hobby shop half way between my house and my mom's hospital,
so I gained much of my collection there. The owner became very familiar with
my mom's issues and my collection interests.
I'm talking about taking 36 days off over a period of 2
years to attend a relative for their chemo. 100 hours hobby time lost.
I'm talking about visiting a relative in hospital, driving 3 hours
one way just to be with them for 20 minutes, because they do not
have the strength to see you another 10 minutes. 120 hours hobby time lost.(60 days)
I'm talking about negotiating with health care services to see that
they, the suffering, are getting the right treatment and their doctors
are all on the same page.
Forget metaphysics, I am talking about the personal sacrifice necessary to watch
someone die because they wanted you there. I have a pile of styrene unbuilt
because of the exit throes of others. We do it.
It becomes rather matter-of-fact, this is life, move on.
This is just what happens to guys like me, right about now.
Between funerals, I build kits!
Forget metaphysical issues, we work on hobbies, and share a bit of
life's pain along the way, because we become friends.
If you choose to suffer those self-imposed obligations, and many of us here have done that,
we are here, we all go through that Mike.
Here's hoping she gets past it, all the best with that Mike.
We are here man.
Styrene is my religion.
PS: apologies for any arithmetic errors, I only spend 3 hours a day celebrating styrene.
I haven't been to a funeral in 4 weeks, amazing.