CapnMac82
One parent at a time is complicated enough; but both is well more than doubly so.
The apes can wait; life cannot.
This is a train wreck that was coming for a long time, but I never dreamed it would happen like this. Both parents ended up in ER within a week and a half of each other. My mom had an infection, and later my Dad had strokes. Both have since been moved to nursing homes for rehab and evaluation. My Dad is able to walk, somewhat, but his mind is broken. What he perceives as reality, is not reality. My mom is cured from the infection but she has pretty severe dimentia and walks with great effort using a walker. It is doubtful either will be allowed home.
At their home are two siblings that are disabled to varying degrees. That is a side issue we have to deal with. My parents didn't make POAs, even though we tried. Now, we are in the process of emergency POAs that are just temporay. The road ahead is dim, complex, and frought with trouble. Add to this, a new age sister that wants them home at any cost, even though there is a danger to do so, and at a great burden to my disabled siblings. They would never be able to handle caring for my parents. There have been many intense conversations along this line. Logic, is missing in her.
And if that is not enough, on the very day my Mom went in, a disabled friend of my came out of a nursing home. She was in there 5 months, and prior to that, she was at two other nursing homes, along with three hospitals stays. The return to her apartment was shakey and scary for the both of us. She seems to be adjusting, thank god. But she leans on me a lot, because she has no one else.
It is a stressful time. Working on the model yesterday was a welcome relief from the insanity.
Thanks for letting me vent.